I see you differently now

I have no desire any longer

If you desire someone else when you are in a committed relationship, then your not really committed to that person are you? That is a question you have to ask yourself.

Why not?

I just don't see the point anymore

You dont even desire anyone real or imaginary?

Nope, unfortunately I don't.

Are you happy on your own?

I have been for 8 years.

You have a family. You're not totally alone in the world. Do you think you have become accustomed to being single or is this something that you have been feeling more recently?

No it is not ok to desire someone else in a committed relationship

I have become accustomed to it.

I have also to a certain extent

I don't think you should because it will possibly lead to cheating. things that could fight your urges, think of every way your partner makes you feel. Do they make you feel like you want to spend the rest of your life with them? Ask yourself are they worth losing? Then ask yourself if you did chase that desire and something happened, if you were your partner would you be so forgiving? Is it just sexually you desire this person?

We're all human of course we have temptations but sometimes we have to ask ourselves are they really worth the consequences. Loneliness can get the best of you too, if you're in a long distant relationship so just find things to occupy your self and give good distance from the person you're wanting if thats the case.

I'm always too busy obsessing over the one I have to find time to desire another one....