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LOL - I hear you - I dont care if people announce up front that they have certain expectations about looks that come in their top three 'must haves' - for myself - there must be chemistry for a kiss - but to seduce me and get me into bed - you have to be able to use the art of conversation and thought to really turn me on......what i take umbrage at is people who profess to want more than just a trophy on their arm and then go pointedly about proving that a trophy on their arm is exactly what they want...male or female... That's where I messed up a lot when I was younger. I was involved in music, lots of cute girls around, but it turned out that there was no intellectual compatibility. "Write a song about me" is not exactly rocket surgery. Now that I'm a writer, I don't have that problem. There are no writer groupies, at least not on the level of writing where I'm at. But I'm not finding anyone who stimulates me intellectually, regardless. So, the automatic "Oh, she's cute" assessment that might flicker through my mind at the mall is quickly tempered by the "Yeah but I'll be bored to death in 3 months" alarm that always goes off in those situations. So, for me, there has to be a sort of multi-faceted attraction now....which never happens. There are plenty of cute ones around here, but no smart ones. And I really don't need another fluffball airhead. I was married to one of those already! |
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WAIT - WAIT a minute....
is that supposed to read "Yes, men are shallow" or "Yes men" are shallow. Hmmmm? hmmm? |
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Out of curiosity, did their profiles say that looks don't matter? that they don't want trophies? b/c if they didn't then you're mixing those that have said it with those that never said it and once again that's an assumption which wouldn't be accurate based on false information or projected assumptions... i'll answer that with one question when was the last time you read a profile that said "ONLY MODELS NEED APPLY'... with about three exceptions each one of them stated that they were looking for someone smart, funny, intelligent etc....in their preferences majority ticked that they didnt care if the women were overweight or skinny....approx 85% specifically stated that looks were not all that important... given that photos were only sent AFTER contact was made via emails etc (so am guessing my profile and exchanges back and forth met the criteria of either SMART or FUNNY or INTELLIGENT...the only conclusion you can come to is that looks to them ARE important... having said that the black and white photo is not an unattractive photo at all....it is just REAL...without all the window dressing.... the proof will be in the pudding when i send the dressed up photo to those who seem to have dropped off the face of the earth... BTW - not remotely broken hearted here - this is an EXCELLENT way of sorting the WHEAT from the CHAFF!!!! maybe others might like to try it and see if get same results... 
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Edited by
Ladylid2012
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Sat 10/10/09 03:30 PM
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Men have only two emotions; HUNGRY and HORNY. If you see your man without an erection, make him a sandwich. 
so f**K and feed...and I've just been being a nice girl.. 
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LOL - I hear you - I dont care if people announce up front that they have certain expectations about looks that come in their top three 'must haves' - for myself - there must be chemistry for a kiss - but to seduce me and get me into bed - you have to be able to use the art of conversation and thought to really turn me on......what i take umbrage at is people who profess to want more than just a trophy on their arm and then go pointedly about proving that a trophy on their arm is exactly what they want...male or female... That's where I messed up a lot when I was younger. I was involved in music, lots of cute girls around, but it turned out that there was no intellectual compatibility. "Write a song about me" is not exactly rocket surgery. Now that I'm a writer, I don't have that problem. There are no writer groupies, at least not on the level of writing where I'm at. But I'm not finding anyone who stimulates me intellectually, regardless. So, the automatic "Oh, she's cute" assessment that might flicker through my mind at the mall is quickly tempered by the "Yeah but I'll be bored to death in 3 months" alarm that always goes off in those situations. So, for me, there has to be a sort of multi-faceted attraction now....which never happens. There are plenty of cute ones around here, but no smart ones. And I really don't need another fluffball airhead. I was married to one of those already! now where was that generalisation quote i had a shot at....hmmmm...LOL.... 
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WAIT - WAIT a minute.... is that supposed to read "Yes, men are shallow" or "Yes men" are shallow. Hmmmm? hmmm? "YES MEN"....are WORSE than shallow....they dont even profess to have a brain let alone use it....nothing is a bigger turn off than someone who doesnt know their own mind... |
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I'm a realist.. I know what men and women are about and that's attraction to our mate.. We're past the time of being married off or setup with a mate so it's all up to us... I really don't care if men want a pretty woman, looks are objective and some will find me attractive, others won't, it's their call.. If they don't they'll move on just as I will... I'm trying to understand what the big deal is but I can't... People are going to tell say all kinds of things all the time and they'll change it, be lying or any number of different things... The point is the one that is for you will love and care about you no matter how you look without makeup, may even prefer you without makeup.. What then? In the grand scheme of things does a shallow person really matter? They'll either find what they want or they won't and in the end it's their problem not yours or mine..
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Men are attracted to beauty. Is that such a bad thing?
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Men have only two emotions; HUNGRY and HORNY. If you see your man without an erection, make him a sandwich.
so f**K and feed...and I've just been being a nice girl..
Seeeeeee! Now you know!
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Men are attracted to beauty. Is that such a bad thing? Nope b/c beauty is in the eye of the beholder... I'm attracted to attractive but my idea of attractive isn't the same as some of my gal friends sooooooooooooooooo does it matter? Nope only when we're attracted or not... |
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Men are attracted to beauty. Is that such a bad thing? Andy - again you have missed the point - this isnt about is it a 'good' or a 'bad' thing to be attracted by looks alone... it is about people professing that they 'so dont care' about looks and then pointedly proving that they do... it is just the dishonesty of the whole thing - why waste my time! |
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I'm shallow, too, and I am a woman. Not looking for Mr. America, but I know what I like when I see it. And I want to see it. And I want to see more than one photo as everyone has a "good" pose. If they are not attractive to me, I do not want to carry it further to see if there is more inside, except for friendship perhaps. If I don't find someone physically attractive, TO ME, he'll never make it as anything more than a friend. I want the whole package, but that includes being attracted to my mate physically. It could be eyes, smile, sexy arms, SOMETHING, for me to want to keep getting to know that man as a mate. And, I think most men think like me. Of course, it CRACKS ME UP to no end when you see those older pot-bellied men with hair growing out their nostrils and ears expecting a young barbie type, not realizing that they better have a hefty credit limit to spend time with the type. It's like they think they look like Rock Hudson when they see themselves in the mirror. Yet, I give them snaps for having high self-esteem. Wish I had THAT high esteem. But I'm fairly grounded in expectations, and don't usually dig high maintenance men.
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Men are attracted to beauty. Is that such a bad thing? Seriously, so are women. I'm just glad that I am one who is willing to give a "less than beautiful" man a chance. After all, we are born with what we've got. But, still, I insist, there HAS to be something attractive physically to initiate more than a friendship. And one person's definition of beauty is different from another's. Praise God. |
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LOL - I hear you - I dont care if people announce up front that they have certain expectations about looks that come in their top three 'must haves' - for myself - there must be chemistry for a kiss - but to seduce me and get me into bed - you have to be able to use the art of conversation and thought to really turn me on......what i take umbrage at is people who profess to want more than just a trophy on their arm and then go pointedly about proving that a trophy on their arm is exactly what they want...male or female... That's where I messed up a lot when I was younger. I was involved in music, lots of cute girls around, but it turned out that there was no intellectual compatibility. "Write a song about me" is not exactly rocket surgery. Now that I'm a writer, I don't have that problem. There are no writer groupies, at least not on the level of writing where I'm at. But I'm not finding anyone who stimulates me intellectually, regardless. So, the automatic "Oh, she's cute" assessment that might flicker through my mind at the mall is quickly tempered by the "Yeah but I'll be bored to death in 3 months" alarm that always goes off in those situations. So, for me, there has to be a sort of multi-faceted attraction now....which never happens. There are plenty of cute ones around here, but no smart ones. And I really don't need another fluffball airhead. I was married to one of those already! now where was that generalisation quote i had a shot at....hmmmm...LOL....
Well, I'm just talking about people in the area I'm living. Which, to be honest, isn't entirely fair since I don't know anybody here, but I'm basing my assessment on the random bits & pieces I do have to work with. I'm as anti-generalization as the next guy -- unless there's actually some truth behind it (I think referring to people as shallow, at least in the sense of the majority, is probably entirely legitimate, whether they'll admit it or not) -- but I've met one intellectually stimulating woman (in real life) in the last 10 years, so I do have some historical support here! Probably should put up a disclaimer though....it's a limited statistical sampling.... |
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I guess I'm shallow...
I know what I like What attracts me That's what I go for!!! |
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Men are attracted to beauty. Is that such a bad thing? Seriously, so are women. I'm just glad that I am one who is willing to give a "less than beautiful" man a chance. After all, we are born with what we've got. But, still, I insist, there HAS to be something attractive physically to initiate more than a friendship. And one person's definition of beauty is different from another's. Praise God. Exactly!!! I personally prefer the "ruggedly handsome" but loooooooooveeeeeeeeeeeeee looking at the pretty boys...  
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This is funny because Lex is having a book signing at the Playboy mansion
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 Monkey pictures work good
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This is funny because Lex is having a book signing at the Playboy mansion
Only because Hef turned up in my Mutual Match. |
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Men are attracted to beauty. Is that such a bad thing? Andy - again you have missed the point - this isnt about is it a 'good' or a 'bad' thing to be attracted by looks alone... it is about people professing that they 'so dont care' about looks and then pointedly proving that they do... it is just the dishonesty of the whole thing - why waste my time! Some people think it's politically correct to say stuff like that- "looks don't matter, age is just a number, race isn't an issue, size doesn't bother me." They've been taught that people who say that stuff are "open-minded" and whether they are or not, they want to be seen as such, so they lie. I'm the first to say I like a man I find to be gorgeous (not society's idea of gorgeous, my idea of gorgeous), smart, clever, interesting, skinny, great hair, nerdy, and preferably into me. Some people say that makes me shallow, because I mention I want him to be good-looking, but at least I'm honest. I love people who are honest, you don't find much of it now.... |
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