I don't want to sound egotistical, but I know I am an attractive female and do not understand why "the guys I like" are not the ones who contact me on this site or a few others I am on. Could it be the strand of hay, I thought it was cute? Any feedback is appreciated.

Thanks,

S.

looks good to me..too bad you dont live here

Looks good to me too.

Well, seems like the " guys you like" are a little slow if they are not interested in you....The straw of hay is cute

I know you asked for the "guys" to offer feedback but your post reminds me of the vicious circle of men and women.

You are interested in him -- but he likes her -- and she likes somebody else -- we just can't win!

Oh snap! That is also a song! "love Stinks!"

I think this situation is common. Just keep smiling and you will find someone worthy of you!

you should think about going younger

Or....more mature(alright, alright...I mean older)!

Anytime you preceed a sentence with something you don't want to be, you emphasize that you ARE the very thing you say you're not.


"Not to be a b*tch but..." will always preceed a b*tchy statement.
"Not to be homosexual but..." will always preceed a homosexual statement.



likewise... "Not to sound egotistical but..."

Welcome


Tammy

Know I am not a guy but I have worked with a lot of men so will add my two cents.

While you sound like a lovely person the profile sounds like something I would say about a potential foster mom.

As out of charater as it might sound for me I think you have to have a tiny touch of sedutiveness. In the hay might do that in a larger picture but for a tiny photo is doesn't come across until you explained it.

While single and divorced guys might say it is nice that your career goal is to be a social worker just the term tends to scare off a lot of people.

Good Luck.

You have a few filters on - including one that blocks guys that are more than 50 miles away. I don't think anyone gets very many emails when they block people more than 50 miles away.

Drop the insecurites, you're fine! Like pencil point! I'd make pass at ya if was 20 years older! :D Bleeve dat!

You might describe who the "guys you like" resemble in more detail. Your filters are very narrow ... it wouldn't hurt to make more friends.

I personally like the hay, it's something different, and that's always a plus, in my book.

The profile is decent, if sparse. More information might be useful.

But I think the biggest barrier is your e-mail restrictions settings. That's a pretty narrow age limitation you've got there.

But I think the biggest barrier is your e-mail restrictions settings. That's a pretty narrow age limitation you've got there.


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This.


You need to open up your world to more guys than the crowd you "believe" you're willing to date.

Talk to some of the older, and some of the younger guys. Talk to people who aren't from within 50 miles. Afterall, consider that some of the larger towns upstate like Middletown, Poughkeepsie, etc.. are 100+ miles away.. and that's not that far. A guy might Move for ya.

I think you're limiting yourself.

I don't think she is limiting herself; I think she knows her limits.

If she isn't willing to date too much older or younger, why open her up to uselessness?

If she is not willing to date further than 50 miles away, why open her up to uselessness?

If she is serious about meeting someone -- it seems she doesn't want to waste her time or theirs.

sometimes its just the luck of the draw,
you cant help what lotto numbers come out,
u can just keep tryin to guess the right ones
but yeee looks good to me lol

Why? Because then she wouldn't have to wonder why no one is responding to her. that's why.

First let's discuss the "mileage".

When you sign up to Mingle, it asks you for a zip code. You write-in your town. The distance thing restricts way too much going on zip-code.

She's in NYC. NYC is big. And she's in Staten Island which is the furthest point south and west of NYC.

Guy A travels from his home, which 45 miles from the bronx to work every day. He works 20 miles away from her. His zip-code lists him on Mingle as living 65 miles away from her. See where this is going? This is a guy she may very well be able to meet on a daily basis in her area, but he's not able to e-mail her because... of a 50 mile restriction.

Hey, your profile is ok...but it's vanilla. Show a little life...go for it....this is a relationship you're looking for...a soulmate. TALK TO HIM. You're not filling out a job application...make him feel it. Come on...let go..have some fun. Put yourself out there. You can do this...we all can! I'm not being critical...well, I am, but constructively. You're attractive...I'm sure you have lots of other great qualities. Sell it, baby!

Why are you arguing with me about her restrictions?

I simply supporter her preference to whatever she wants in HER profile. She may not be willing to travel.

When she asked for profile advice, I'll bet she was more concerned with the type of pix she has uploaded or essay feedback -- and not geography or the age she prefers to date.

During after-thought ... maybe the OP didn't realize her email settings were set to the 50 mile default. In that case we are posting for naught because it was not purposeful on her part!