What do you do if you think you are with the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with and they stare at other people??? Do you deal with it??? Do the same??? Or just feel like you are being played??? How do you take it???

if I'm sitting in my $100,000 Jaguar at a stoplight and some one drives up in a really nice Corvette I'm gonna look at the Corvette and say "nice car"

it doesn't mean I want to give up my Jag. It doesn't even mean I want to drive the Vette

it just means I see a nice car and appreciate the beauty of it. And then I look at my Jag and sigh contentedly cause mine is better

VERY GOOD ANSWER!!!!

if I'm sitting in my $100,000 Jaguar at a stoplight and some one drives up in a really nice Corvette I'm gonna look at the Corvette and say "nice car"

it doesn't mean I want to give up my Jag. It doesn't even mean I want to drive the Vette

it just means I see a nice car and appreciate the beauty of it. And then I look at my Jag and sigh contentedly cause mine is better

It sounds like you are not very sure about your relationship at all. Do you think he is IN love with you? If so, you would not even question him. I remember when I was married, I still looked...I am human. BUT I was with the man that I wanted to be with so I wasn't looking at another man in order to find someone to cheat with! Just because you are with someone, you don't stop looking!!
I think you need to get secure with yourself and realize that he is lucky to have you. Maybe once you start feeling this way, you won't worry so much when he notices other people. Let me share a little secret with you, IF he doesn't want to be with you...then you being jealous is not going to keep him!! If he wants to leave you for someone else, there is really nothing you can do about it! THERE IS ONLY ONE PERSON IN THIS LIFE YOU CAN CONTROL AND THAT IS YOURSELF! So my advice to you is get secure with yourself and make him realize that YOU are the best thing in his life!!
Good Luck