Anyone who hopes and thinks they are likely to meet their significant other on this site is either: (1) delusional, (2) unrealistic, and or (3) desperate. In the first instance, you are not likely TO ACTUALLY MEET the individuals you communicate with, [Mingle2 has a global base]. In the absence of a face to face meeting, all you have are images and text from someone claiming to possess a certain identity, [from Georgia, 27 years old, etc.]. Mingle2 must be recognized for what it is, a forum for adults to communicate. It is not a panacea for "lonely hearts".

Further, berating a young man who has a self-confidence crisis is not an advisable therapuetic application. You are only reinforcing what he perceives as his lack of self-worth. I think it fair to say that the majority of women on Mingle2 would not be compared to "Helen of Troy" in the beauty category. Nor would they be compared to Marilyn vos Savant in the intellectual category. So, I do not see how or why the pundit bloggers radiate an "air of superiority". I do not think that impeccable grammar would resolve his internal dilemma. I do not think that dapper dress would "make him a chick magnet" either. What the young man needs to do is to learn to like himself. He should build upon his postive traits and skills. Everyone has some talent, whether it is latent or pronounced.
Post-graduate literary skills are not indicative of a person's character and sincerity.

The young man espouses that he is an "outdoorsman". Well, every outdoorsman should have a hunting dog. If nothing else, it would teach him how to care for and be responsible for something living. I did not mean to imply that the dog would merely be a gimmick, prop, or a ruse. I think having a pet would make him socially active. Dogs need exercise, and exercise requires outdoor physical activity. Thus, he would likely have more encounters with women while exercising his pet. In any event, pets can bring happiness to their owners and ease their anxieties. Pontificating on whether or not he could AFFORD such a luxury is absurd. He never elaborated on his personal wealth. Though, he did imply that he made good money, "he does not women to want him for what is in his wallet". I also gathered that he has been out of technical school for many years. In any event, one could amply feed and care for a large adult dog with $ 50 a month.

So, I would close with this interrogative question: [interrogative, meaning I would like a truthful response].

How many patrons on this site have ACTUALLY MET AND OR DATED SOMEONE THEY COMMUNICATED WITH? If so, why are you still active on this site?

Hey man, you'll meet someone!! Take your time Bro, and dnt rush! Be confident, and be you!!! Good luck my man!

I am not sure what Diligent is referencing to?! Yeah, this site may be global..BUT if one want to meet someone, it can happen if they want it! If you think everyone is so called "delusional" and fake...Why be here?? Yet you want a vixen, and here for dating???

It's all in what you put into it.

Put a bit more effort into your profile, some different pics. Getting involved in the forums, thats one avenue for you to get to know about internet dating, and some of the people here. Also an opportunity for people to get to know you too.

Watch which kinds of threads get positive responses, and which ones don't.

Maybe change the doom & gloom attitude or get help to change it. No one likes to be around a negative person...I should know

Yeah, be happy/positive and confident. Women love a guy that is positive confident and fun. Think about it, if you have a fun positive attitude that will make them feel good, and if you make them feel good, they'll want to be around you.

Dont worry about being a nice guy, girls not wanting a nice guy, blah, blah, blah. If you like who you are, they will like who you are, trust me.

A friend of mine told me I'm smarter than I look, so...

Yep. Just get a dog.

Grow your hair out really, really long...and it's gotta be "good" hair. You gotta have hair a woman would kill for!
Women seem to have a fetish for that.
Not that there's anything wrong with that...

Whoa...I thought MelodyGirl was a bit harsh on 'ya (...and she IS a perfectionist, let me tell you), but now you're beginning to sound a bit wussified, man.
...and you're broadcasting your wussification!
BEST ADVICE: DON'T TAKE THIS EFFIN SITE TOO SERIOUSLY! Us crazies finally gave up, and just decided to let our hair down, and have fun!
TO MELODYGIRL: THE PIC OF MY BAD TOENAIL IS ON ITS' WAY TO 'YA, BABE!

Reality check for 'ya:

JUST BE YOURSELF, MAN!

No, Einstein! I meant get a dog as a companion! Here's a companion for YOU:

Methinks someone needs a once-over with my LASER POINTER!

Wow, I don't even know you. I am not a perfectionist. I just like what I like. "Perfection" is relative and different with everyone. One person's utopia may be another person's hell.

Bears; bulls -- who cares?

The OP asked for profile feedback.

The world is getting soft if anyone thinks I am too hard on someone.

It seems most of the members can't take any kind of feedback without getting butthurt. Don't ask if you don't want to hear opinions.

You are also more than welcome to not read my replies if I am "so harsh". I won't apologize for disliking weak or whiny people whether it's here, at the gym or the library.

As long as I am polite then I can post like everyone else.

It's not that people don't want to be with you, it's that they don't know what you're all about.

This whole online dating thing takes alot of work. Really well thought out profiles help a bit, that is if they care to read what you have to say.

When you get a match, check out that person's profile again and decide if you want to send that email.

When you start talking to somebody you're interested in, don't try to hit the home run. It's like fishing, let them take little bites before you try to reel them in.

Some women will msg you about how they are everything that you say you want in a woman while others spew 'OMG I can't believe how great you are' but stop talking to you a week later because 'I'm sorry, you just seem too good to be true'.

Some women want a friendly lengthy chat, while others seem absolutelty unable to expound their thoughts past a handful of words in each reply.

You have to be willing to deal with all of the uncertainty BS on this site that you will encounter. I mean, hey, it's free you know what I'm saying. Keep telling yourself that because meeting somebody that just blows your mind is worth all of the crap you have to go through to get there.


As a side note: People, what's up with deciding that you don't click with somebody so quick before you even know them. That's begginning to really tick me off. I should sticky on my profile 'If you don't want to really get to know me, don't bother wasting my time' ooh now that's nice headline. At least I might not get annoyed as much

If life treats you like that, do what I do, and suck right back.

It does get tiring going through it over and over. The first emails where you get to know eachother and then the emails end suddenly. Either because you lose interest or they do. I sometimes feel like keeping my information in a word document so I can copy and paste it into my emails. I can only describe what I do and other "basic info" so many times before I get carpal tunnel syndrome.

Life is to be lived not scrutinized. The sooner that is realized the better.