Topic: Anyone ever go through custody...
TheShadow's photo
Tue 09/15/09 02:04 PM
for there child and even when the other knows what their doing is wrong from keeping your child away from you and you know it too. How do you deal with the emotions of not wanting to just go get your child, but at the same time if you do take that action. It would show the judge your both playing games.

A little more info on this. Neither of us have legal custody and in UT. Haveing a child the mother has to file doccuments to get legal custody. Other words, i could go get him and not a thing she could do about it.

TxsSun's photo
Tue 09/15/09 02:17 PM
My child custody was a nightmare. Don't really care to share it all here, however I will say, I had fake ID's for all of us, to run away.

The emotional part of it is hard, not only for you but mostly for the child.

TheShadow's photo
Tue 09/15/09 02:23 PM
Just trying to get some ideas on how to keep my mind set on the right path. Some days are better then others, knowing it's been over two weeks my ex chose to keep our 15 month old son and refused to let me see him at all.

TxsSun's photo
Tue 09/15/09 02:27 PM
I also went through that as well. Hint, the fake ID's....I really wish I could tell ya, but it is something that seems to make us all crazy! They know where to hurt us the most.flowerforyou

Good luck to you and I hope it all works out for ya! I know it is tough!


TheShadow's photo
Tue 09/15/09 02:40 PM
Thanks :smile:

Twitch's photo
Tue 09/15/09 02:48 PM

So sorry to hear this Shadow -- you are in my prayers babe :heart:

TheShadow's photo
Tue 09/15/09 02:55 PM
Hello Twitch:smile:

Well, we finally had are first hearing and i'm just wating for a letter to find out when are are trial will be set. 2 long years is enough for me, but i'm doing ok for what things are.

They why i look at it. I have a clean record and i'm doing everything legal, so things are looking good as far as that goes.

So how you been?

BonnyMiss's photo
Tue 09/15/09 02:57 PM
Shadow it is good to see you but not under these circumstances.I hope and pray that this hic-up irons itself out in the best possible way. Good luck to you my friend you and your little one (and his mum) are in my prayers. flowerforyou flowerforyou

TheShadow's photo
Tue 09/15/09 03:06 PM
Hello Bonny,

Actually if i look at it, it's really not that bad. What i mean about that is, it's good i have friends out here and on this site. Thats because if i need a kick in butt, they will give it to me laugh then there are those friends that know how to just have open arms:wink:

BonnyMiss's photo
Tue 09/15/09 03:19 PM

Hello Bonny,

Actually if i look at it, it's really not that bad. What i mean about that is, it's good i have friends out here and on this site. Thats because if i need a kick in butt, they will give it to me laugh then there are those friends that know how to just have open arms:wink:


There will always be a welcome in the hillside and here on Mingle for you. flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

no photo
Tue 09/15/09 03:23 PM
You are that child's father and you have rights and responsibilities.
Take care of both.
Sometimes it's difficult and painful, but in the long run it will be a benefit for both you and your son.

My oldest daughter turned 18 in June, and she moved in with me because she wanted to spend more time with me before she moves away to go to school. I was surprised.
And very happy.

Jess642's photo
Tue 09/15/09 03:23 PM
Patience......and ALWAYS put your bubba's best interests above your own....


what is best for HIM, is where you keep your head at....not what she is doing, not what you are or are not doing, what the courts are or aren't doing...ALWAYS keep your baby at the top of the list.


Cuddles and sunshiny smooches for you..flowerforyou :heart:

Twitch's photo
Tue 09/15/09 03:26 PM

Hello Twitch:smile:

Well, we finally had are first hearing and i'm just wating for a letter to find out when are are trial will be set. 2 long years is enough for me, but i'm doing ok for what things are.

They why i look at it. I have a clean record and i'm doing everything legal, so things are looking good as far as that goes.

So how you been?


You hang in there babe -- you are on the right track doing everything you are supposed to do. I wish all good things for you.

Getting back on my feet slowly. I finally found a job after 19-months of unemployment.

TheShadow's photo
Tue 09/15/09 03:40 PM

Patience......and ALWAYS put your bubba's best interests above your own....


what is best for HIM, is where you keep your head at....not what she is doing, not what you are or are not doing, what the courts are or aren't doing...ALWAYS keep your baby at the top of the list.


Cuddles and sunshiny smooches for you..flowerforyou :heart:


You know your right, and it's somthing i have been keeping in mind. Our son is my main priorty and does come first inspit of what i may think of anything. And this is why i'm doing what i can to make sure he will have a healthy and safe enviorement to live in.


Hell, i moved from Cali to UT to help take care of our son. From where i stand, and staying out here for two years now. I say i'm doing the right thing for our son and as a man. Hell, there are so many dead beat dads just in this area alon and i will never become one of them.

TheShadow's photo
Tue 09/15/09 03:43 PM

You are that child's father and you have rights and responsibilities.
Take care of both.
Sometimes it's difficult and painful, but in the long run it will be a benefit for both you and your son.

My oldest daughter turned 18 in June, and she moved in with me because she wanted to spend more time with me before she moves away to go to school. I was surprised.
And very happy.



The knowing she wants to spend time with you is a really good thing. Most teens don't even really want to be around there parents or even really get to know them for that matter. Enjoy it :smile:

no photo
Tue 09/15/09 03:52 PM


You are that child's father and you have rights and responsibilities.
Take care of both.
Sometimes it's difficult and painful, but in the long run it will be a benefit for both you and your son.

My oldest daughter turned 18 in June, and she moved in with me because she wanted to spend more time with me before she moves away to go to school. I was surprised.
And very happy.



The knowing she wants to spend time with you is a really good thing. Most teens don't even really want to be around there parents or even really get to know them for that matter. Enjoy it :smile:


For years her mother and I worked opposite shifts, so from when they were little babies I spent a lot of time raising my girls.