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Topic: Here comes the ex...
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Tue 09/08/09 09:10 PM
I was exchanging emails with a decent sounding guy and on the 7th email he casually mentions his ex. Does anyone see that as a red flag?

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Tue 09/08/09 09:11 PM
Edited by michiganman3 on Tue 09/08/09 09:12 PM
Not necessarily,

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Tue 09/08/09 09:12 PM
did he mention having her body tied up in the basement or something...?

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Tue 09/08/09 09:13 PM
Depends on what he said about her. If he's still in love with her, yeah it's a red flag. If he hates her, he's a keeper.flowerforyou

Jess642's photo
Tue 09/08/09 09:14 PM
I want to know about the ex's...all of them...in minute detail...


so I know how he will describe me...when I become one...noway laugh laugh laugh

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Tue 09/08/09 09:15 PM
the exes are always a b*tch.......Im sure Im one too!!!laugh laugh laugh

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Tue 09/08/09 09:16 PM

Depends on what he said about her. If he's still in love with her, yeah it's a red flag. If he hates her, he's a keeper.flowerforyou

But if he hates her doesn't that mean he's really still not over her?

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Tue 09/08/09 09:17 PM
I don't hate my ex. I hope she doesn't hate me either.
Because of children still living at home, we must interact from time to time and I like to keep it civil.

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Tue 09/08/09 09:18 PM


Depends on what he said about her. If he's still in love with her, yeah it's a red flag. If he hates her, he's a keeper.flowerforyou

But if he hates her doesn't that mean he's really still not over her?


Maybe..I don't want to hear a guy complain about his ex... she shouldn't be taking up so much space in his head if it's over. imo

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Tue 09/08/09 09:21 PM

did he mention having her body tied up in the basement or something...?


That's definitely not a good sign.

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Tue 09/08/09 09:22 PM



Depends on what he said about her. If he's still in love with her, yeah it's a red flag. If he hates her, he's a keeper.flowerforyou

But if he hates her doesn't that mean he's really still not over her?


Maybe..I don't want to hear a guy complain about his ex... she shouldn't be taking up so much space in his head if it's over. imo

Yeah thats what I mean...flowerforyou

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Tue 09/08/09 09:25 PM
WHy is it not ok to talk about an ex?

Are we supposed to pretend we are blank...like a barbie doll's genitalia?

We have had full lives, prior to meeting someone new.....are we supposed to pretend that didn't happen?

I talk about all my life, the people who have been in it, the places I have seen, the things I have done...

of course ex's fit into that also..



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Tue 09/08/09 09:34 PM
In a relationship of course we can discuss our ex's.. it's part of who we are and our experiences. 7 emails is hardly a relationship...he should be putting his energy into getting to know her if he's interested.

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Tue 09/08/09 09:37 PM
Part of her is HER exs....part of HIM is his exs...

we see things differently...and I dont have a statute of limitations on the exact formula of what when where and how one must approach these things...

I share, I answer, I ask.... from the getgo....

am not real big on pretending anything..

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Tue 09/08/09 09:39 PM
I think if they keep talking about the ex........constantly, then they are not over it somehow.

Call me when your over it......:wink:

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Tue 09/08/09 09:42 PM

Part of her is HER exs....part of HIM is his exs...

we see things differently...and I dont have a statute of limitations on the exact formula of what when where and how one must approach these things...

I share, I answer, I ask.... from the getgo....

am not real big on pretending anything..


I'm not into pretending..if someone asks I'll talk..but I have no ill feeling about any of my ex's and I don't complain about them..so I guess I don't want to hear them complain. Discuss at some point..sure, not whine about how she did me wrong...

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Tue 09/08/09 09:44 PM

I was exchanging emails with a decent sounding guy and on the 7th email he casually mentions his ex. Does anyone see that as a red flag?


It depends on the context. mentioning of the ex on the seventh e-mail is not a red flag in its self. But, if it was a red flag to you, then I would have to say proceed with caution.

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Tue 09/08/09 09:45 PM
I get bored REAL FAST!!! when a guy talks about his ex......makes me want to leave and not come back.slaphead

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Tue 09/08/09 09:46 PM


Depends on what he said about her. If he's still in love with her, yeah it's a red flag. If he hates her, he's a keeper.flowerforyou

But if he hates her doesn't that mean he's really still not over her?


I hate all my exes and I'm over all of them. You don't have to be into someone to wish them ill will.:wink:

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Tue 09/08/09 09:49 PM
I dont hate any of my exes anymore.....I have no feelings towards them. That means, I am over them.

If you harbour such hate over someone, you are not over it. GET OVER IT!!!rant explode laugh

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