Rats
And why in the bedroom??
If these are pet rats he is not taking care of his pets the right way
This is a very bad situation.

agreed. that would scare the hell out of me...

Agreed.

If his place is gross his personal hygiene is probably not up to par. He could have lice, scabies, mites, bed bugs. Eeewwww. Tell him.

OR, you could hire someone in a hazmat suit to go in bring things up to code. Tell Mr. Pigpen that it has to stay that way or you're G O N E.

that's what i'm thinking. imagine the condition of his undies or his sheets.

LMAO.

Sorry. It's sad, really.

He probably doesn't even see it. And probably will have no idea what you are talking about when you break up with him. I don't believe in lying tho, so just go ahead and tell him the truth and be prepared not to take his phone calls.

Give it to him straight, with as much kindness as possible.

I met a gal from another site described herself as "a few extra pounds"
and "more to love" We had been e-mailing for close to 2 months, several times a day.
When we met she must weighed well over 300 lbs.

We finished the date. Later she e-mailed me she thought I wasn't ready to date yet. And I agreed with her. I didn't mention her weight at all.

About 2 wks later she e-mails me and asks me to very honest with her, she says "I get a few first dates, fewer second dates, almost no third dates, why?"
I said that "size" is an issue for many men, including me, and that she hadn't been quite upfront about how much she weighed.
(No full body pics on profile)
She said that what I said was honest, that it sucked, but thanks for being honest.

I cleaned my bathroom last night but after reading this I don't feel so bad about leaving the dishes in the sink.

gag, just gag

I dated a guy like this. His house wasn't dirty but he never cleaned his appliances. So one weekend I was over there, I cleaned them while he was in the shower

Well, if his kids are in the house that is a health hazard. Not to mention that there is messy and then there is trifling, dirty, dangerous nastiness.

Tell him you simply can't see him again. If he asks, tell him because it is because he doesn't respect his home or the health of his own children. If he can't suck it up and clean a few minutes a day...

I'd call the health department. Think of the children. No joke.

people can change...seriously.

i have a girlfriend; she's been one of my best friends since i was a teenager...i even helped deliver her children.

i remember when one of her kiddies was about a year and a half...going into her house and standing there with utter shock and disgust. there was literally a path through the house, but there was garbage and clothing and food and dishes piled over my knees everywhere else. literally.

i walked in the kitchen, and you couldn't get to the sink; black, mildew, fungus...it was beyond help. it looked as if it hadn't been touched in months, literally.

i left for an hour and bought some stuff. i came back and handed her a couple boxes of trash bags, tons of bleach and cleaning supplies, and sponges and gloves. i then grabbed her daughter and said she was coming with me...pointing out that she'd better be grateful that it was me taking her and not DHS.

i remember the guilt i felt for not having checked in sooner...depression can be a real *****. i kept her daughter for almost a week, and when she called me back, the house was spotless. i made certain to go over at least twice a week...and even years later, this has never happened again.

of course, she's also married into the military now; that might have something to do with it, lol.

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sometimes, you can't keep your mouth shut. if it's something that is fairly minor, maybe you guys could get by with a maid. if it's not minor...not telling him won't help him in the least. life is a growing process...

maybe you should offer to clean the crib