Maybe your just picking the wrong ladies...

First I want to say... DO NOT CHANGE! Being a gentleman is appreciated by far more woman than by those that balk at it. It shows you were raised to be respectful I bet you also show respect for your elders, shake the hands of men or woman you are newly introduced too, etc, etc.. Same intention.. showing respect and basic manners.

Now... I have had many men tell me this same exact thing! I cannot explain WHY anyone would reject an act or curtesy. Being curteous does NOT take away from their (a woman's)individuality, independance nor does it question their capabilities. Those that get their panties in a twist over this obvious have some REAL issues they should be looking at.... and need a class in basic society etiquette.. Just IMHO

Could be true. All I know is that you can only take so much, I'm about to change my attitude cause I am a gentleman and it's just not working... I'm gonna experiment on being the typical guy for a bit and see how that works out.

sad to hear this. I hope your experiment shows it is not your manners that needs to be rethought.. but maybe the type of women you are encountering/choosing.

a gentleman is something you are not something you do

if you have to think about it you arent one

Thanks :)

Just like girls that are used and abused there are guys that are treated the same way. I'm not an alky or druggie, I work hard, study, take care of myself and my business. I'm not the player type and respect women... I'm not that ugly frustrating when girls come and go without an explaination... obviously I'm too nice

Hear hear!!!!!!!!!!

I love a good gentleman!!

Balky... my guy is a real Biker (no drugs or alcohol)... AND.. he is a real gentleman. (for me and any other woman) he holds doors open and let's me go first, opens my car door everytime (even why I am the one driving), will light my cigarette, pulls out my chair for me.. and more.

Am I capable of doing all of these things? Hell yes!
Is he a tough guy? Oh HELL yes again! LOL
Does he still show MANNERS to all?? yes again.
And do I appreciate his sweet gestures? ABSOLUTELY

Just food for thought

My sons open doors for everyone..they have be raised to be gentlemen by me. And the youngest is only 15..so I agree, you are or you aren't.

I do all that and I even pump their gas for them :) but still I remain ladiless.

what a woman accepts in her life is a good indication or how she feels about herself. The ones that don't appreciate being treated like a lady obviously have some deeper issues to deal with. Not your problem unless you let it be.

Aye from that side of the screen...

From this side of the screen its a different story.

They will take advantage of an opened door to short you in line, get to the last litle spangel in the store or even step on your feet as they crowd past you with out even a thank you...

and then you hear under their breath (what a dork).

True ladies are as rare as real gentleman.

This is good to know as I treat women with respect and honor.

Your doing the right thing. Some women now get all bent out of shape when on a date you insist on picking up the dinner tab.

They are all caught up on the I'm a strong woman bs.

Don't mind them.



I had a girl get pissy with me when I pulled her chair out for her to sit down when we were first being seated at our table in a restaurant. She says "I'm not helpless or paralyzed."
I just responded, "I am aware of that - I'm being a gentleman, your kind enough to go on a date with me, showing my appreciation."

She rolled her eyes.


Some women can't handle being treated like that - view it as cheesy, unneccesary.

Any woman I'm with I will open her car door, always pay the tab, pull the chair out for her to sit down, pour her a glass of wine or drink first, get up to get her the drink and not make her get up.

those are respectful things that you just do for your girl to show you care.

Being a gentelman is strong characteristic - a real man. Do not change it.

to try and please me
you never let me down before

I love a gentleman but being gentlemanly, like everything, should be done in moderation. Stand up when I walk into a room?
That would be a little much for me.

Ask yourself this quick question before you go blaming yourself, Does that women know how to be a lady? Since you are obviously a gentlemen you should not waste your energy trying to understand a new aged women, you'll never grasp it...Find yourself a old fashioned women, I believe there are a few out there in other countries...It is funny that some women expect this kind of treatment this day of age but dont know the first thing about being a lady...Makes me laugh...Oh well, life is inperfect and different thru everyones eyes, see what you will