How hard is it to just be yourself in life?

And why can people not just allow you to do that?

I dont find it hard so much anymore. When I was younger, and had to depend on others, it wasnt as easy.


I suppose its harder whenever you depend on others.


Being more than what I am is not the challenge. Its being something more than I am today. BUT I welcome it, and work on it daily.

Who says you can't be yourself? If someone isn't "allowing" it, that's on YOU, not them

being who you are sometimes requires help though, doesnt it?

and if you ask for a little help...and try and be who you are...sometimes it doesnt work


so wheres that leave you? ya know?

Sometimes at very least, the lesson is that you dont want to do THAT (whatever it is) again.


The good news is, theres plenty of other people to ask, and other ways to find stuff out.

yeah...

i guess...what was i talkin about?

i am still in awe of what you just said

so..i get what you're saying, i think

the lesson is that...when ppl "dont let me be who i want to be" its not that they won't allow me to be who i want to be, its that in order to conform to their views that "person" i want to be just doesnt mesh with them.....so i do not allow myself to "be who i want to be around them"

so kind of like suz said, it is me who is stopping it, not them...

One thing I've found out (the hard way) is that until and unless you are true to yourself, you will never be happy. And if you're allowing yourself to be influenced by society, your friends, family, strangers on the street, that's really your responsibility. It's no one's fault but your own.

its not the people who are influencing me though, thats the point of the topic

thats the misunderstanding

its me



see..there we go again

You're influencing yourself, how, exactly? Are you trying to conform to some "ideal" of who you think you should be? Or are you trying to become the best "you" you can be? There's a difference, you know.

I want to be me, and I do not care what people think. I know I need to work on myself. But how can I do that when the world will not stop and wait for me. I cannot say, "Hey guys, hold on a minute while I go spend 3 months and work on my inner child." Oh and give me 2 weeks to work out at the gym so I can get them pecks I've always wanted.

I am just one of those people who hates having to stop "being who he wants to be" to "be who he wants to be"

Does that make any sense?

conform to some "ideal" of who i think i should be, YES that is what i mean!


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and...I know, in my heart...I will become the best "me" that I can be. That is not the issue.

I think you are trying too hard...being yourself comes naturally!

Trust me, you do not need to take 3 months off life and go live in a commune to figure yourself out. It's an ongoing process, or it should be.

Society tends to think of the world and people in terms of black and white, you are or you aren't and god forbid if you're not. What it fails to take into account is there are as many shades of gray as there are people. And people tend to forget that they are ever evolving and changing. What is "you" now may not necessarily be 20 years from now. There is nothing wrong with that. Continuing to learn and grow, that's the beauty of life. Embrace it, learn to love your own unique shade of gray and don't be afraid to change it as you continue on your journey.

I dunno......

I just wonder sometimes

Cuz...I mean, what shade of gray am I? granted, thats up to me. I know and I understand that. No need to tell me things like



as much as they are appreciated...they just really make no sense, bc honestly? I think I'm not trying at all. I think I have given up somewhere along the lines.

I think. Oh..."Billy is just that guy whose favorite color is gray and he is 'different' so people just gotta understand he is different"

And ya know what? That is stupid. If I want people to know me, then I need to stand up and show them. Right? Yes, here I sit on the computer, just as millions of others do, so that isn't the problem. The issue is...what am I doing when I'm not on the computer? Isn't it?