Topic: am i looking for too much
wannacook's photo
Thu 08/20/09 08:49 AM
ladies,
please help......
i have a question that id love some honest feedback WITHOUT negativity... criticism is fine but no need to be ugly...

if you look at my profile, you'll see I'm one of the remaining 'good guys' out there but i think i have one BIG no-no for most women in my dating age group. i had kids at a young age and do not want to have anymore.... are there ANY ladies out there that dont feel the need to have kids in between 30 and 42?
also, there are A LOT of women here that post 'open/unsure' to the 'do you wnat kids' question.. Is that just another way to say 'yes' but dont want to scare some guys off???

thank you in advance!
dave

2themoon's photo
Thu 08/20/09 08:56 AM
just wanted to say the reason why i posted "open/unsure" on kids is because i already have a 9yr old and would be content with just him but it depends on who you find. so i am open to possibly having another one but also content with my son. i think women between the age group you discussed are either already going to have a child or children. if they don't most women probably want to atleast experience motherhood for themselves not saying there isn't a lady out there who would be happy just being step-mom. anyway it just takes time to find what your looking for. you may find in the end you will have to compromise :) good luck

banter's photo
Thu 08/20/09 08:56 AM
Edited by banter on Thu 08/20/09 08:57 AM
not wrong to ask for what you want..just realize that you do minimize the playing field.

no photo
Thu 08/20/09 09:29 AM
One thing first.... You evidently cut and pasted from POF and it's mentioned on there that your age is messed up.

Some men and women put "open/unsure" because they don't necessarily want a child but might with the right mate and if that mate wants one.

Younger gals may want to have kids, so you take your chances dating them, but there are women who do not want kids at all at any time.

And, I'll be surprised if nobody gives you the "oh, here's another nice guy thread"!! laugh Maybe they'll behave!!