my husband left about 2 months ago with 2 babies. he has only seen his son 3 times since he has left he went out of town for three weeks and didnt even call or ask about them or nothing. im pregnant with number 2 and i dont know if he is coming back. how long does it take for a 1 year old to forget there dad and how do i explain it to him when he is older what do i say to that when he askes y does all my friends have daddys and i dont?????

the math confuses me.....


You tell them the truth....Dad left me....find a suitable male role model...

hahah im sorry he left me pregnant and with a 1 year old and didnt see him then went out of town didnt call when i went into labor it was stopped. then he hasnt seen them since i dont know whats going on if he is coming back but do you think it would be a good idea to date other men or bring in another man? weather it be a family member or what ever.

whoa whoa whoa, slow your roll with tryin to bring in another guy, them babies gotta get to know you first. you need to make that bond with them before they can with anyone else. My advice for you is, Stay single for a little while, then slowly casually start to date, you dont want guy after guy to go in and out of your kids life ya know.

thats what i thought but that other guy said to find some one to be a male rolemodel i wanted him to clarify. i am still unsure wether or not he will come back it seems wayyyyyyyy tooo early hahahaha so if he doesnt come back how do i explaine this to him

Good lord girl he's one .Ya got plenty of time for everything .First figure out what happened and finish your relationship one way or the other .Then get your life settled .Your not going to do anyone anygood includeing yourself to start bringing different men into your life when nothing is settled in your own mind .Figure out what went wrong .What mistakes were made on both sides and figure out what you can do to fix that.Then deal with what comes next.Do not bad mouth the dad as it may make the kids think they are to blame .Go slow and do'nt panic

i would never bad mouth their father.my parents divorced and did that ****, i cant do that to them. its just the reality of one day he will ask and understand is setting in. hopefully he will come around and see them at the very least. i know im panacing hahaha.i just dont dont know how can have a family and a marriage its not like we faught andjust go to ur friends and up and walk away. not to come back. hahahaha i have to laugh the only thing left to do. well my son is up from his nap thanks for answering me ill check on the post later

Well thats why I said you need to figure out what went wrong in the relationship first and fix that in yourself or you will likely repeat the same mistakes again whether it is the type of gu you are chooseing or what ever .You have children to think of now so everything should be done with them in mind .

Hmmmm

I'm mad

Staying outta this one

Except:

The best interest of kids ALWAYS comes first

Why mad ?

Relax and take care of your children.

Stop freaking out.

You don't know what the future will hold, take it one day at a time.

Sad

Okay you said he went out of town for three weeks. you didn't specify what or why so all sorts of questions raise. First have you tried to call him? Second did he say he was leaving you? Third is it possible he is in the hospital somewhere? Have you contacted his family at all? Maybe they know something you do not. If what you said is all the facts it sounds like you are looking for a reason to leave him without it being your fault? I hope there is just information left out because if there isn't you two have some serious issues you need to work out.

Now if he did just bail one word of advice don't bring guys into your kids lives until it is serious. Date them for awhile. find out who they are. that way you don't leave your kids with a child molester. because to tell you the truth you are prime target for child molesters. "single parent who is hurting and desperate for a role model of the opposite sex."

You do not need to be in a relationship with someone for your child to have a positive role model. That is where friends come into play. Make friends with other single parents. it helps.