Be who you want to be and like who you are. The confidence that comes with being comfortable and confident with yourself will bring partners that are a good match for you.

i admit that arseholeness has gotten a better hold of me these past few months, but i know that it has. sure is better then people taking advantage of you.

How would being bitter help you in any way? Sometimes just understanding that everything happens for a reason helps, at least it helps me. I would imagine most people have struggled with adversities, you can either wallow in it, use it as an excuse to be angry, or pull yourself up and say I'm going to be better than that.
Life has so much more to offer when your outlook is good. I believe you get back what you put out, yes occasionally you get crap, even when you put out good. You attract the kind of people you are. Keep that in mind.
I don't mean to simplify or downplay your struggles, I know from personal experience the bitterness you struggle with. I realized that I was only hurting myself and limiting what I wanted to become.
It took a lot of prayer to carry me out of that mind frame.
I'm sorry you are struggling right now.

I am becoming biter...slowly! Seems like every guy I tend to like, likes me till they meet my friend, then they go after her. When I do find a guy who likes me an not my friend...things go sour fast or they are not my type of guy. I am giving up hope.

after bitter comes twisted.

oh if you were only closer

how you been sweetie?

Just curious but do you think your friend is giving off a vibe that she is interested in your men...why would all of them go for her. If she is your friend she should be selling your good points to those men your interested in.

getting by

She does tell them my good points, she lets then know nothing will ever happen with them because I had my eye on them first. But they don't care, they still go for her an ignore me. Like this last guy, went to go see him, brought her along because I was nervous an wanted to see if he was like the others... yeah well he was. I really liked him a lot, my type of guy an everything.

If she hadn't gone with you and the guy got a chance to know you first, beyond that first physical impression. The things like intelligence and wit, the things that make our hearts go pitter patter maybe he would have never even thought twice about your friend once he met her. I don't know, maybe I live in an idyllic world where things like hearts going pitter patter don't really happen.

Maybe..but I really regret bringing her with me. Next time I will go alone!

Embrace the dark side

Other people's pain will keep you warm at night.

I think that is a good idea.

I like the way you think!

Hmmmmmm!That is bearifically ill advice that could only lead to a much shortened life span.Just saying!Grrrrrr.