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Topic: What do you think about this situation?
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Tue 08/11/09 11:11 AM
Ya know.....the best way for her to handle this situation is to let him go with a smile on her face. I know.....grrrrrrr I would find it hard too.

But here is the "catch"....the more she ******* about him going without her etc the more he will want to leave.

Its all ****ing reverse psych isnt it???noway laugh

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Tue 08/11/09 11:15 AM

Ya know.....the best way for her to handle this situation is to let him go with a smile on her face. I know.....grrrrrrr I would find it hard too.

But here is the "catch"....the more she ******* about him going without her etc the more he will want to leave.

Its all ****ing reverse psych isnt it???noway laugh
as a mental health professional I would say it might be better to lead by example then manipulate a manipulator for someone who needs to be strong and confident, though mind f'ing someone who deserves it can be fun

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Tue 08/11/09 11:17 AM


Ya know.....the best way for her to handle this situation is to let him go with a smile on her face. I know.....grrrrrrr I would find it hard too.

But here is the "catch"....the more she ******* about him going without her etc the more he will want to leave.

Its all ****ing reverse psych isnt it???noway laugh
as a mental health professional I would say it might be better to lead by example then manipulate a manipulator for someone who needs to be strong and confident, though mind f'ing someone who deserves it can be fun
a good mind fukc is sometimes better than the bendy over kind!!:wink: laugh laugh

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Tue 08/11/09 11:19 AM
Oh crap!!! Muriel woke up!!!devil noway devil

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Tue 08/11/09 11:33 AM
i wonder this.... if u worked 2 days a week and was dating someone that worked 5 days a week, you have traveled outta state 18 times the last yr and your signifigant other never came to see you, how you would feel? just curious here... for a relationship both should feel wanted and the extra effort should go both ways.. jmo i wonder if she ever pays for him to come see her at least? hummmmm..

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Tue 08/11/09 11:47 AM
not only would i NOT wrap my head around this story, i would not bite the apple nor take the bait off the hook.smokin

marry her someday....in their next life only when he quits his playing.....grumble
theres another woman somewhere...flowers

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Tue 08/11/09 12:01 PM
If I were her I'd take time off work and go to him around his time for vacation and try and go with him payin my own way!! And if he still says no then definately somethings up!! But I have never been in a relationship where my man wanted to go on vacation w/o me!! So idk

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Wed 08/12/09 05:50 PM
something wrong here.
another woman in a far off place waitin in the wings quietly.:tongue:

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Wed 08/12/09 05:54 PM

I stay out of others couples biz!!

It's safe that way!!

No drama!!:heart:


I totally agree with this statement!!

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Wed 08/12/09 05:58 PM
okay let's all stay out of it now, and c what happens.
so send us a report okay when u find out what is really going on...drool flowers

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Wed 08/12/09 06:10 PM

He is going alone, and all the other vacations he's takin previously were on singles cruises! hes goin to australia, no family! And I am in NO way shape or form influencing any decisions she makes, thats on her! Hes a nice guy, but idk! She doesnt go see him cuz she works 5 days a week no time off, hes a firefighter and only works 2 days a week! I just wanted to see if others thought what I did!


scared Where in Australia?????scared

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Fri 08/14/09 02:23 PM
hey i've heard of people taking separate vacations...that way they stay married and together....
we could be all wrong here. he might need his space.....with the other woman...hiding in the closet...waiting in the wings..flowers

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Tue 08/18/09 10:38 AM
Im not sure where in Australia! But I gave her some of your guys' good advice and she took it, so hopefully she's wrong! He is a good guy from what I know! Thanks to everyone!flowerforyou

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Tue 08/18/09 10:52 AM
Gee it really sounds fish you know.In this particular case im assuming she is at least 40 years old .you need to tell her to open her eyes . Not like there seeing a whole lot of each other .some thng is definitely wrong if I were here I wouldn't be thinking of marrying him just my opinion mike

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Tue 08/18/09 11:19 AM

Gee it really sounds fish you know.In this particular case im assuming she is at least 40 years old .you need to tell her to open her eyes . Not like there seeing a whole lot of each other .some thng is definitely wrong if I were here I wouldn't be thinking of marrying him just my opinion mike


hahaha...she is definitley not 40! She is only 29!

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Tue 08/18/09 11:21 AM
What went through my mind was that maybe he is going to go see her but wants it to be a surprise.

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Tue 08/18/09 11:26 AM
3 days every 2 months is not a relationsip. Hes full of it, and she believes his crap. Something fishy? UNDERSTATEMENT.


She should have moved on when she relaised this is all she can have with this man. You cant know someone like that.

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Tue 08/18/09 11:32 AM
there r 2 many unknowns in tha situation. If u even start 2 belive its sum fishy then u dont have trust and no relationship can survive without trust

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Tue 08/18/09 11:33 AM
there r 2 many unknowns in tha situation. If u even start 2 belive its sum fishy then u dont have trust and no relationship can survive without trust

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Tue 08/18/09 11:40 AM

Not enough info, though first impression says bad news especially being around the holidays. Personally speaking when I'm in love and that far apart, I would have to go see my woman. So doesn't look good so far



Yes, I feel the same way...I would be terribly hurt if he didn't want to spend the time with me...ESPECIALLY since they can spend only a few days together every couple of months. People show their love...or lack of it...in funny ways...but it's HER relationship, so ultimately...only SHE can make that judgment call...

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