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Wed 08/05/09 09:55 PM
I have a habit of calling ladies that I'm friendly with "dear". One time I referred to a girl who I was talking to's friend as dear, and she went back and told her friend that I was flirting with her, when that was the furthest thing from my mind. Would you think a man was flirting with you automatically if he called you dear, or would you possibly think he was talking down to you?

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Wed 08/05/09 09:58 PM
I would not think he was flirting or talking down.. some just talk that way.
When I lived in South Carolina everyone said..hey babay

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Wed 08/05/09 09:59 PM
if a man called me dear...i believe i would walk away

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Wed 08/05/09 10:01 PM
its southern thing down here i call people hun a lot but if a man i didnt know called me that i might be inclined to grab a shovel or kick him in the balls


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Wed 08/05/09 10:05 PM

its southern thing down here i call people hun a lot but if a man i didnt know called me that i might be inclined to grab a shovel or kick him in the balls



Keep in mind I reserve it for ladies that I find darling. Please don't kick me in the balls.

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Wed 08/05/09 10:06 PM

I have a habit of calling ladies that I'm friendly with "dear". One time I referred to a girl who I was talking to's friend as dear, and she went back and told her friend that I was flirting with her, when that was the furthest thing from my mind. Would you think a man was flirting with you automatically if he called you dear, or would you possibly think he was talking down to you?


Talking down to me. People in my area call people by their name when they talk to them.

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Wed 08/05/09 10:07 PM


its southern thing down here i call people hun a lot but if a man i didnt know called me that i might be inclined to grab a shovel or kick him in the balls



Please don't kick me in the balls.



Word.....smokin

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Wed 08/05/09 10:10 PM

I would not think he was flirting or talking down.. some just talk that way.
When I lived in South Carolina everyone said..hey babay


i grew up down south...we call people by pet names..but you can tell the difference from a pet name and someone coming on to you..

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Wed 08/05/09 10:17 PM


I would not think he was flirting or talking down.. some just talk that way.
When I lived in South Carolina everyone said..hey babay


i grew up down south...we call people by pet names..but you can tell the difference from a pet name and someone coming on to you..


It's a southern thang.. I have never in my life been kick in the balls by calling someone Honey.... smokin

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Wed 08/05/09 10:20 PM

I would not think he was flirting or talking down.. some just talk that way.
When I lived in South Carolina everyone said..hey babay


Let me rephrase..it depends on if hes' staring at my boobs when he says it..

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Wed 08/05/09 10:20 PM


I would not think he was flirting or talking down.. some just talk that way.
When I lived in South Carolina everyone said..hey babay


i grew up down south...we call people by pet names..but you can tell the difference from a pet name and someone coming on to you..

This girl that told her friend I was flirting with her didn't know the difference. This was back when I was drinking daily, and her friend worked as a bartender. I was in a friendly mood, but all I said was," Another beer, dear." I just thought it was witty because it rhymed.

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Wed 08/05/09 10:21 PM

I have a habit of calling ladies that I'm friendly with "dear". One time I referred to a girl who I was talking to's friend as dear, and she went back and told her friend that I was flirting with her, when that was the furthest thing from my mind. Would you think a man was flirting with you automatically if he called you dear, or would you possibly think he was talking down to you?

No!
But if you're catcalling on me or wink at me and ask me for coffee in the middle of the night then yes!rofl rofl rofl

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Wed 08/05/09 10:22 PM


I would not think he was flirting or talking down.. some just talk that way.
When I lived in South Carolina everyone said..hey babay


Let me rephrase..it depends on if hes' staring at my boobs when he says it..


Good point....laugh

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Wed 08/05/09 10:25 PM
cmon boobs are fun to look at!i look at mine all the time!rofl rofl rofl rofl

still i dont like be called and endearing name unless i know the person other then that ill be tempted to break a beer bottle and ram it down his throat

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Wed 08/05/09 10:27 PM



I would not think he was flirting or talking down.. some just talk that way.
When I lived in South Carolina everyone said..hey babay


Let me rephrase..it depends on if hes' staring at my boobs when he says it..


Good point....laugh

I'm a gentleman, I only sneak glances at thier boobs when they're not looking. If you laugh it off and apologize when you get caught, it never seems to be an issue.

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Wed 08/05/09 10:30 PM

I have a habit of calling ladies that I'm friendly with "dear". One time I referred to a girl who I was talking to's friend as dear, and she went back and told her friend that I was flirting with her, when that was the furthest thing from my mind. Would you think a man was flirting with you automatically if he called you dear, or would you possibly think he was talking down to you?


Is the man a stranger or someone I know? If it were someone I knew well, I'd probably be fine with it. If it were a stranger? No thanks.

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Wed 08/05/09 10:31 PM




I would not think he was flirting or talking down.. some just talk that way.
When I lived in South Carolina everyone said..hey babay


Let me rephrase..it depends on if hes' staring at my boobs when he says it..


Good point....laugh

I'm a gentleman, I only sneak glances at thier boobs when they're not looking. If you laugh it off and apologize when you get caught, it never seems to be an issue.


Pssst.....we have peripheral vision. We know when men sneak those glances.laugh

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Wed 08/05/09 10:31 PM




I would not think he was flirting or talking down.. some just talk that way.
When I lived in South Carolina everyone said..hey babay


Let me rephrase..it depends on if hes' staring at my boobs when he says it..


Good point....laugh

I'm a gentleman, I only sneak glances at thier boobs when they're not looking. If you laugh it off and apologize when you get caught, it never seems to be an issue.




"my girls" always know when some one is looking...

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Wed 08/05/09 10:32 PM
we know you know snookums

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Wed 08/05/09 10:32 PM
I can relate to this issue. When I'm attracted to a lady and we get along great, during the conversation I'll try to fight the urge to call her "Sweetie". I like it, because it seems that she would not be offended by it, and because I attempt to give her a status of trust and cuteness. How do you ladies feel about that one?

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