Do relationships over the web really helpful in finding love?
I mean yea it may work for some people but why does it not work for most people in the world? I've been through 15 relationships over the the internet but all of them only lasted 5 months, what's up with that?

online dating isn't for everyone; i had a friend who was always meeting new guys online and it never worked out, for lots of reasons. then i had a friend who met her bf online and they've been together going on 5 years. so i'll tell you what i tell everyone, whether or not online dating works depends on who you are, which site you're on, what you're looking for, and what you're willing to put up with. there are success stories on here, so it does work for some. as to whether it'll work for you, i don't know your preferences, so i have no idea. good luck though.

I think the main thing would have to be trust!
I know a lot of people don't trust each other and always think there special someone is cheating on them.

true, and with distance, you have that extra bit of paranoia. therefore, it's not for everyone.

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Hmmmm...they lasted 5 months each?? 5x15=75 months.
Did you mean you had 15 relationships in a total of 5 months??

They can work if you are willing to put in the time and effort, to make it work....

Currently in a two year LDR, and trying for a transfer so I can move there and we can get married.

if so, that gives speed dating a whole new meaning

thanks to u all for your replies

anytime. it really does depend on a lot of factors though, whether it works. i hope it works for you.

With the life I have.....for now that's all I can go on "hope".
only one time I fell in love, and she was my first love...until 5 months has past. She left without saying anything and after another 5 months, she called and we talked, but she didn't have intrest in me anymore because of us being long distance from one another.

So after she left and everthing was over, that's when I started internet dating...because offline I could never find love. Everyone i've met was either with someone, didn't like how I look, or it was just because I don't do what most guys do and to me that's just stupid.

But thanks

the deal is long distance and online only internet dating deprives you of the actual physical contact that some need. some people are okay with the situation that comes with online.

others need more. they need reality. IRL. they need physical love and i don't just mean sex. they need to be able to drive to their loved ones house and hug them. and have dinner and be with them ... IRL.

its just a matter of what you need and do not need.

i... need the physicality.

edit!!!

by that i mean i camn meet a guy online but at some point it needs to go IRL before i can ever consider it to be serious.

I know all that and that's why i'm trying .

argghh, i just reread up there, so you said why they don't work for you usually. hmmm, i guess all i can say is keep trying, if you're still holding out for a net romance.

So I just perved your profile, and saw that you're only 20 years old!!!! You have plenty of time to find a gf. You're just a kid, relax, have fun, you'll get what you want eventually. (walks off grumbling about kids today and their "instant gratification)

...thx, but i'm not a kid

i'm kidding however, compared to me (an old lady) you're a kid. anyway, all jokes aside, i've noticed when you focus on something too much, it eludes you. when you just let it happen, it falls into place. just try talking to some girls and maybe take longer to get to know them. i think a lot of the reason relationships don't work out, however you meet them, is because often people rush things, and then they fizzle fast. that's been my experience.

In order for a LDR to work I think it depends on how much time and effort you put in. To me LDR's do not work. And Trust is a big issue in a relationship.

I have a friend who met her husband online. He was in Canada, she was in San Diego. They were friends at first, but when we had a gathering of the site members, the sparks flew. They dealt with a LDR until they could work out all of the legalities, and flew to see each other whenever they could in the meantime. They've been married 8 years now.

Have another friend who met her bf online, they're going on 6 years together. Others I know haven't had any success at all, so I guess it's a matter of luck (in meeting someone you feel that strongly about), trust and commitment to putting in the effort needed to make things work.