I wouldn't care if a person doesn't have a photo on their profile. Provided that they are willing to send a photo when they email me.

No pic to me means you have something to hide!

But you're beautiful!

I was on this site before for a long time without a pic and most people wouldn't even take the time to acknowledge my existence..Now that I have a pic; well let's just say I have more friends than before I had a pic..
I guess people are visual.....
what can I say?..

I don't judge people by their pics anyway. For one you can download a pic of someone else to use on the site which I believe I have seen a few times on here.

If you are talking to them for a while and they will not share pics, then become concerned.

Looks are really only as important as the shallowness we all have. The important parts of people are inside them.

i dont have a camera

luckally i found 3 pics on flicker, that look a bit like me

But people ARE visual. That doesn't make them shallow, just human.

Nothing wrong with being shallow...

You said it Snarky..that's my take as well...I mean I'm the same person with my pic than without it...it comes down to being visual..

I am shallow!

Being visual means you are stimulated by seeing things. Deciding you cannot be with another person because of their looks is shallow.

If you were blind, how would you choose a mate? Smell, feel, sound, etc... sight is only one sixth of our senses.

Gotta disagree there. Shallowness is one of my MAJOR pet peeves. Major.

But to each their own.

MyShell, yeah, we are all who we are, pic or not. But the pic helps people put a face to the posts and profiles, which gives a much rounder image of who we are.

I wasn't talking about "being" with someone on here; I merely meant conversation; etc;.....same thing "visual"...shallowness has nothing to do with it; it's people not wanting to communicate unless they can see who their communicating with..I can be guilty of this myself and I don't consider myself "shallow"...

I agree snarky..

Say the couple is deaf, would their individual style of sign language create conflicts????

He/She is cute and all that but, ewwww look at the hands.

And yet, human beings are going to be physically attracted or not. That's just a fact. And that physical attraction is VISUAL. It's not EVERYTHING, no. Hell, I can't STAND pretty boys because they tend to be major a***oles and I can't ever EVER be with someone like that. However, I can't be with someone whom I am not attracted to either. I actually tried to date a couple men whom I was not attracted to, because I hate the idea of being shallow. I was EXTREMELY unhappy and ended up hurting them in the end. Not worth it, for them or me. I am not shallow, but I won't be with someone who doesn't make me truly happy. Otherwise it's not a relationship, it's a pity-filled charity.



Ah, yeah that's true. It's just easier to "see" the person you're talking to. Course, that doesn't always mean seeing THEM. Hell, Lex, Mirror Mirror and justaguy usually don't have THEIR pics up, but the ones they do have, we relate to them, and we like them overall for what they write. That has nothing to do with physical attraction, you're right. It's about friendship at that point, and the best friends are the ones who can be silly.

I changed my image to this one because I was tired of getting messages that went "hi ur hot wanna cyber call me at ***-****" UGH! Guys like that don't get the concept of being silly... I haven't had one of those since I changed it. But it's still me! Hell, it's probably MORE me than most my other pics!



I read somewhere that the deaf tend to have a much higher attraction to hands than most. Which isn't a surprise. So... yes.

I have tossed this idea around a lot.

While cute avitars are growing on me some are really so cliche and some are outright offensive I can't figure out what what are people thinking?

A blank screen? That is just lazy and shows a real lack of interest or imagination. If you have been on site more than a short time at least go to the moderators and ask for help if you don't know how or don't want to post a blank page.

I really get the hesitation to put your picture out there into cyberspace for whatever purpose people can dream up or say about it. There are some pretty sleazy people in the world and your face is part of your reputation. Fortuneately society has caught on to the ease of how pictures can be manipulated and captured without a person's permission so I suggest just letting that go. You are only accountable for how you choose and post your photos. Warning choose wisely. Look at the whole picture and the story it suggests about you.

I do have empathy for those people who have dangerouse or celebrity jobs that don't really want to bring crazies into their personal life and maybe their families. It is a chance we all take however since I don't know anyone who can say they really feel "safe" that someone they don't want from their past coming forward to harrass them. So within reason bring it on or accept and retreat. Sometimes that is the bullet you take for your choices. I feel like if I have to put it out there so does who ever wants me to consider them.

Sorry I don't buy a photo will keep anyone worthwhile from see you as a person on other levels. I will say it over and over a good photo can speak volumes about your personality and talents. I think a smile is critical form of communication and someone who can't bust a smile often enough that someone catches it on film troubles me. No it is not necessary to have a professional photo to be on line but if meeting friends and finding a date is not enough of a reason to make and effort at even a minimal level then I have to question how a relation will be reciprocal and balanced.

I don't buy either that anyone is so beautiful or ugly that with the millions of people who are on line that someone will not find your look not only acceptable but desireable. Not everyone is so brainwashed to want the typical concepts of beauty or to reject it. If you hide your light under a bushel that person who wants all of you is deprived of finding you. Give people a little credit most get that the looks of youth melt away and the real beauty comes from within the boundries all that you are; even your scars. We all have a measure of insecurity and maybe even self loathing but is that really why you want someone to feel attracted to you?

I guess my bottom line is unless someone has a religious prohibition to being photographed just get over it and participate fully. If that is in fact your conviction I kind of wonder why you would want some one of such a dissimaliar value system.

Hey. Hey. Hey

What did I have to hide

The only reason I pit a pic up was so I could start am MM collection!!!!!

I cannot be bothered talking to too many people at the best of times, i certainly dont want to spend a great deal of time talking to someone that wont show their face, even though i am not here for dating at all.

Although i dont assume that a picture is actually of the person i am talking to either. Plenty if profiles here will have fake pictures on them, and you would probably be surprised to see many of the more regular posters arent actually who they say they are either.

If i was looking to date anyone, i would be insisting that i saw them on camera before things start getting anywhere. If they said they dont have one or cant afford one, id send them a cheap one, no excuses.

There's a stigma in my country associated with resorting to a dating site. I don't just see this place as an online dating site but until the owners see fit to change that connotation in writing on the homepage... that's what it is. Hence no unobscured pictures of myself.