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Topic: Divorced?
snarkytwain Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 2789	Sat 07/25/09 08:05 AM Edited by snarkytwain on Sat 07/25/09 08:06 AM
NEVER BEEN MARRIED ,BUT NOW DIVORCED WOMEN FROM SCHOOL THAT IGNORED ME . SEEM TO TAKE AN INTEREST ME NOW ...... BUT THEY DO HAVE CHILDREN ....... BUT I HAVE A FEELING THEY WILL PUT THE KIDS FIRST IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND ME SECOND THE KIDS WILL HAVE PRIORITY OVER ME ....... THE KIDS CAN DO WHAT EVER THEY WANT AND I WILL HAVE NO SAY IN IT.............. The kids will ALWAYS be above the SO. Always. Even if the SO is the other parent. That's how it's supposed to be. Never ask a mother to put you above her kids, because the good ones will slap you silly for such an assumption and the bad ones who WOULD do it, you don't want anyway. trgirl, that is such a sad story! You are obviously a majorly strong woman, and I can't help but honor that greatly.

adj4u Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 21254	Sat 07/25/09 03:08 PM
NEVER BEEN MARRIED ,BUT NOW DIVORCED WOMEN FROM SCHOOL THAT IGNORED ME . SEEM TO TAKE AN INTEREST ME NOW ...... BUT THEY DO HAVE CHILDREN ....... BUT I HAVE A FEELING THEY WILL PUT THE KIDS FIRST IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND ME SECOND THE KIDS WILL HAVE PRIORITY OVER ME ....... THE KIDS CAN DO WHAT EVER THEY WANT AND I WILL HAVE NO SAY IN IT.............. The kids will ALWAYS be above the SO. Always. Even if the SO is the other parent. That's how it's supposed to be. Never ask a mother to put you above her kids, because the good ones will slap you silly for such an assumption and the bad ones who WOULD do it, you don't want anyway. trgirl, that is such a sad story! You are obviously a majorly strong woman, and I can't help but honor that greatly. only to a point those that put the child first are a disservice to themselves and their s o the child will grow and leave making them first will make you lonely and bitter because your s o left when they where young cause of your misguided belief they should be first and foremost that was the best propaganda campaign ever (oh the children) it has destroyed more families and hurt more children than anything else i can think of

MeChrissy2 Joined Sat 12/13/08 Posts: 10155	Sat 07/25/09 03:39 PM
Married for 11 years, two beautiful kids, he had problems telling the truth and with money. Tried counseling, he said he needed some time to think things through and we could work on it. After 2 months, he introduced our kids to his girlfriend. Divorce in the works. The good news is I've learned alot about myself over this last year. What I could have done better, what I can't compromise on, hoping not to make the same mistakes in my next relationship.

Benofzen Joined Sat 07/18/09 Posts: 126	Sat 07/25/09 04:07 PM
Ive been seperated for 5, divorced for 2 years. We were dating for less than two years when she got pregnant. We got married and soon found out we both we lacking many skills that it takes to make a marriage work. "Well things got bad and things got worse, I guess you know the tune.." Despite the failure of the marriage we remain united in doing the best we can for our son.

hereformore Joined Sat 10/04/08 Posts: 832	Sat 07/25/09 04:52 PM
married for 12 years, divorced now for the last 13 yrs. he cheated on me, i too tried to forgive and work it out, but i could not, the pain was way to much to bare, he died in a motorcycle accident about 3 yrs ago. he was calling my name while they loaded him up in the ambulance, guess after 10 yrs of divorce, he knew who really mattered to him, i never got to tell him that i forgave him. i have learned to forgive more easily now, life is to short and i never want to lose someone else i care about without them knowing that i have loved and forgiven them I'm sorry you never got the chance to tell him you forgave him. He knows now so I hope you forgive yourself...

catseyes1 Joined Fri 06/19/09 Posts: 1459	Sat 07/25/09 07:09 PM
Divorced 12 years ago, did not work out do to lack of communication.

froglittlesis Joined Mon 03/10/08 Posts: 776	Sun 07/26/09 12:33 AM
My divorce became final in February of this year. The dope was more important than I was to him. I thought it would last forever with him. It worked for almost 20 yrs. I feel so much better just being his friend now.

middlewoman Joined Sun 07/19/09 Posts: 40	Sun 07/26/09 11:11 AM Edited by middlewoman on Sun 07/26/09 11:13 AM
We were no longer compatible with each other. We had gradually formed different beliefs, values, interests over time.