Here's a major question maybe all of us have, but some of us have SO's now, and maybe those who are no longer alone can tell those of us who are...

WHERE the hell do you MEET people? You can't date co-workers and 99.9% of people at a bar are NOT relationship material. So... where did you meet your Mister / Miss Perfect? And HOW did you meet them?

We met at my university.

I went up to some random dude to ask him for directions to an exam, and he helped me out and introduced himself (with a very proper handshake) and said he'd noticed me around. Months later (after a summer vacation and half a semester), he got the nerve to tell me he thought i was beautiful, and we had our first real conversation which lasted over an hour, at the end of which he asked for my number, i obliged.

A couple weeks after that, after having been talking on the phone every day since, we went on our first date.

transplant party, or karaoke party, or any social networking party..

Best suggestion I have is go places where people of the opposite sex do things they like. Or work. Or eat breakfast or lunch. Or get their cars or hobby stuff. Or exercise.

Flirt a little. Make eye contact. Wear something that will start a conversation. Get a bussiness card. Give people compliments. Ask a question. JUST ASK somebody. 99% of the reason people don't have a relationship is they watch too long from the sidelines.

Just don't go around looking like a slob. That is where you are sure to be seen and once you trash your first impression you are dead in the water. The most perfect apple always looks better with a little polish on it.

Smile have fun. It is the biggest aphrodisiact in the world. All this baloney about having to look hot is silly when if you just smile and are pleasant to be around they will find you.

I'll try that. Thanks.

As for college? I thought maybe I'd meet "him" there, but I don't even know for sure I can even GO... so... we'll see.

I just noticed that everyone I go out with and everyone at the bar is so... blase about life... and so... shallow... I can't BE like that... and I can't love someone like that. I just... can't...

Sometimes being unique sucks a**.

Your local hardware store.

Then I'd end up with a guy like my ex husband.

Honey you are soooo young...one day when you least expect it you will walk right into him...

Thirty-two isn't that young. But I know what you're saying. Honestly, I'm not that upset about it most the time... especially when I have something to think about and do. But last night I went out with some friends and I was the ONLY single one. I had to listen to them talk about their SO's all night. ***** and complain about them, etc.

That can get to even the most stalwart hearts.

And give them a few years and they will tell you how NOT so great it is...

Oh I know. I was married for 11 and a half years.

I wonder, IS there such a thing as a great relationship?

There is, but you have to put effort into it. So many people forget to do all those nice little things they did in the beginning of the relationship. Every day should be like your first date. Look your best, act your best.

I totally agree. But it has to go both ways, so no ONE person has any kind of control over the relationship. You can do everything it takes and them some, but if your SO isn't as well... it'll die. No matter how hard you try.

Well I met my girls father on a fishing trip

The Internet is a big no-no. Men do things behind your back when you can't see that ate hurtful

You look to cute to be hurt!!!!

Just means you are with the wrong person. Sucks, because you don't find this out until it's too late.

Generalize much?

Truthfully. No

Never had to before

Not till I hit the on-line world

Learning fast though!!

Real-world dating....online dating....what's the difference?

Answer: There is none.

Me too. I understand Gos. And thank you for the compliment!



Yes, and Lily? How then do you EVER know?

YOU HAVE MAIL