did it! i moved to texas to be with a girl and it lasted about a year. it sucked because i had no family or friends there. it best for both to move to neutral grounds and start a new life..... in my opinion

Excellent answer. ^5!

me too. don't know if i learned my lesson but i'd have had to spend quite a bit of time with that person offline to figure out if they are the one and if they are 1000 miles away... i'm not sure how that would happen.

which is sad if you think about it.

Sure I'd move for the right one. I've done it before, and I'd willingly do it again.

Where you live is just a place. Yes, you have family, friends, jobs, etc. With the world of technology growing more and more each day, it makes our world so much smaller.

For me, I've found that even though I don't see my family as much as I might if we were across town, the time we do have together is that much more rich. Same with friends. And as for jobs, really, there are others out there.

For the the one I love, I'd do what was necessary as I'd hope he would as well.

Then again, I've been on the move all my life. I'm not afraid of the unknown of a new place, job and friends. After 46 houses in 36 years and too many states to mention, it's second nature for me. I'd like to think it has broadened my horizons enough to allow me to be open to something new.

46 houses?? wtf!!

yes, if it was right

Joining two lives usually means one person moving. Moving is EXPENSIVE. If you have never made a coast to coast move you do not have a clue how difficult it can be. How badly your move can go or how exhausting it will be.

Before I did it I would definitely have to take a trial run in the area say taking an apartment or going to maybe a semester at a local college. What is critical is I would be spending real time with his family, friends, career, and community. That is the ONLY way you are really going to know what you are getting yourself into.

I am retired so the job issue is out of the picture for me. I would advise against trashing your career/finances. With the economy tanking you could find yourself unemployed, unable to qualify for assistance, get medical care (not all insurance transfers), or unable to collect child support or other incomes for months. Money does not make the world go around but financial crisis can crush a relationship before it can even get up on it's feet. It can also cause unneccesary pressure on forceing a relationship that is not "working", and the hardship
that a failed relationship unrecoverable from.

For those of you that have never had to cope with "homelessness" a word to the wise is one of the leading reasons people find themselves homeless is that they have a failed relationship. Women even with children are finding themselves in the streets of America every night. This is not just and admonishment to women. Guys don't kid yourself you have a nasty breakup you can end up with no car, no place to stay, and maybe in jail trying to avoid prison. Be smart; keep a parachute.

Anyone considering a move should look at the other significant relationships in their lives and how they might cope if they could not get "home" if needed. Or if you have to bring and aged or seriously sick loved one to your "home" area. For instance not being able to take advantage of the assistance of siblings or supported living can be crushing for couples.

Yeah if i had a GREEN CARD 2 the states..

If I find Him , If I find that he is everything I've dreamed and wish in my life then I'll move immediately ... BUT ... how many times we were thinking we found the Only one in our life until we ... wake up one day from pain of all broken dreams and illusions .
This is a real miracle , this is the biggest luck and the most precious things in our life if we find the real One .
And if some of you are this lucky person then don't hesitate to get this the treasure of your life.

I'm not a dreamer , I know that each one receives exactly what they really want from the bottom of their heart ...

Yeah... 46. I've moved a little bit!

Have you been everywhere?

hahaha nice one !

No. I have a job I adore and a small son in elementary school. I'd not move away for a man and risk the safety and security of my son. Nope, not doing it. My son is the man who comes first.

Was thinking about this post.

As someone who's life has been "on the move" for various reasons I would like to share some perspective that maybe others don't have.

That is no matter where you live, where you go to make a "fresh start", "move forward", or "find Happiness" the most important person you take is you. No matter where you live in the USA you are pretty much going to find the same thing. There will be the same general mix of personalities, opportunities, and stressors. (That also generally means you have the same opportunities to meet quality people to date if you just look for them locally.)

Moving in and of itself can be pretty exciting, and I think it is a good experience that folks should try at least once, but it can drain your energy and cut off the little investments that you sometimes don't even realize you make. That how much easier that familiarity is even if it is boreing.

So much of a move is rebuilding things you have already accomplished. That can be a bonding experience if both partners are starting from scratch but when you move into someone else's life you are basiclly sacrificeing a lot and there will be a lot of catching up. If you are really up for that and the person you join can be generous enough not to expect that it takes a while for things to level out it can be worth it.