I have a family member who has a huge problem. Her son, who recently turned 18, has been secretly dating the neighbor girl, who is 14. These neighbors have been close family friends since before this little girl was born, and HER parents are happy about the situation. HIS parets, my aunt and uncle, are worried sick about the situation. He is supposed to be starting college in the fall, going for eduaction. Something like this could mess up his whole life, but he says he doesn't care. They are torn. They don't want him to get mad and move out, and skip out on school, but they also don't want to just turn their heads and let it happen.

Aww mommy, I can see how youd feel for him. Thats frustrating. Hes got to lack some maturity. *shakes head*


Id pray all I could, sometimes thats the best you can do for someone.

I hope he has some friends with some sense. O jeez.

Hate to be the one to bring it up, but they should get her on birth control pronto if she isn't already. Four years isn't that much, except for where the ages are, 14 happens to be able to land him in jail, and yes, it could screw up things for him if they get into trouble. Also the fact that he might be in a place to start looking for something at least semi-serious, and she is in a place where "in the moment" is EVERYTHING. I have one that just turned 15 and is dating a 17 year old, one that turned 17 in April and has been dating a 14 year old since last October, and a 24 year old, so I have been through the whole range of chaos. We just do everything we can as far as precautions, and backup plans, and stalk the hell out of them, lol, and hope they learned well. Hope all turns out well for the families.

sounds like your cousin needs a talking to about child molestation

whether anyone likes it or not

if authorities find out his life will become a nightmare

if he wants to do the intelligent thing

he could be graduating college as she is graduating high school

then they could have a chance together

but as it is jail may be in his future

just a thought

but hey

what do i know

If it was my 14 year old that he was messin' around with, he would be in big trouble.

14 will get you 20.

dating will mess up his whole life?????

Ditto

If it were my 14 year old, he would have no worries cause he would be getting his education in prision.

Every adult make sure she is on birth control......

Take it from there.....

Not sure what state law is where you live, but having been the mom of an 18-year-old in love with a 14-year-old...make sure this kid can't go to prison over this situation. (Happy parents can turn into mad parents in a flash).

Beyond that...the only thing anyone can do is talk to him....talk...not *****...not yell...not threaten...not guilt trip...just talk. This young man's old enough to hear what you have to say, even if he doesn't readily agree right off the bat. I trust these young people know about birth control?