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Edited by
Calleigh12
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She might have thought you went to the same Applebee's to remember her or something, sounds arrogant, but some people are that way. Also, if you text or email or call someone a couple times and they don't contact you back, it's best to back off. Give them a couple days to get back to you, if they don't, chalk it up to a bad experience and move on. Constantly trying to contact someone- especially after just one date- is considered stalker behavior, and should be avoided.
Good luck on your trip and better luck next time. 
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look man, just from what i read it seems that you came across as a little needy. you called and texted her how many times before she would respond?
call once, text once. if she wants to get back to you she will. have you ever seen a movie where a person calls another person and leaves like 50 messages for them? it's a little creepy and it reeks of desperation. she said she wanted to take it slow so you shouldn't have expected to hear from her the next day or even the day after that. i'm pretty sure you blew it on this one. go on your trip and have a good time. find someone else when you get back. . . . |
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lol..called twice and messaged her like 4 times...thats about it...yeah probably blew it...damn she was a hot bartender too man...free drinks and all...but whatever...something tells me shes gonna call me back but this time i'll be the one that will say NO.
it is what it is... |
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Honestly, yeah, if you call and text that many times after the first date, it comes off as being a little stalkerish, especially if she hasn't responded. If she wanted, she would have responded after the first text or call. Even if she was interested but just busy, that many times? And making the assumption she was hurt or something? That's just a little much. Go, live your life. You'll meet someone else, someone who's a better match for you, communication-wise
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lol..called twice and messaged her like 4 times...thats about it...yeah probably blew it...damn she was a hot bartender too man...free drinks and all...but whatever...something tells me shes gonna call me back but this time i'll be the one that will say NO. it is what it is... the world is full of hot bartenders 
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Girls take crap too literal these days. They should text you if they are not interested, instead of being retarded about it, and not give vague hints you have to wonder about.
Those kinds of people need to go play into oncoming traffic. |
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Unfortunately this isn't uncommon. As a rule on the first couple of dates I would call once and maybe email or text once (not in close succession. If neither receives a response, then let it go. The chances that something has happened to them are very slim. The chance that she's blowing you off is nearly 100%. And when someone is trying to avoid you and you, despite your good intentions, are trying to contact her, she will see it as stalking....mainly because she is looking for an excuse. Word of advice: If you're calling a cell, it can get lost. I've lost mine before and had another one die. Also, for emails - my computer died and I got another one a couple of months later. Still I say try on two different mediums, once on each, then let it go. What are the odds that you lost access to both your phone and your email, and at the very same time as you were starting to date? And, if that did happen, and you wanted to continue the relationship, wouldn't you, knowing your phone and email avenues were down, try to contact the other party yourself? I think the odds are far greater that she was ignoring him. |
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Edited by
Calleigh12
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Mon 07/06/09 01:04 PM
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Girls take crap too literal these days. They should text you if they are not interested, instead of being retarded about it, and not give vague hints you have to wonder about. Those kinds of people need to go play into oncoming traffic. bitter much? i guess men don't take anything literal? and we've already covered why alot of women don't say they're not interested; because desperate, needy, dominating, arrogant men who think any woman should be interested in him simply because he's interested in her and deigns to grace her with an email, text, or unwanted advance on the street won't take no for an answer. 
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yes....maybe he contacted her one too many times...but come on...he is still young. I'd be willing to bet at some point in our lives we were guilty of it too
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yes....maybe he contacted her one too many times...but come on...he is still young. I'd be willing to bet at some point in our lives we were guilty of it too i have too, live and learn 
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Girls take crap too literal these days. They should text you if they are not interested, instead of being retarded about it, and not give vague hints you have to wonder about. Those kinds of people need to go play into oncoming traffic. I agree with this (well, not the traffic part  ). People should be upfront and honest. If you're busy, say so, if you're not interested, say so. It saves a lot of angst on both parts. Granted, once you say you're not interested and they keep contacting you, that a whole other topic
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yes....maybe he contacted her one too many times...but come on...he is still young. I'd be willing to bet at some point in our lives we were guilty of it too Oh, I'd admit to it. It's embarrassing to admit (and it was when I was in high school but still). 
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just stop calling her and go out with someone else.
it'll be a lot easier. |
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it's all a learning process young grasshoppa
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Girls take crap too literal these days. They should text you if they are not interested, instead of being retarded about it, and not give vague hints you have to wonder about. Those kinds of people need to go play into oncoming traffic. I agree with this (well, not the traffic part ). People should be upfront and honest. If you're busy, say so, if you're not interested, say so. It saves a lot of angst on both parts. Granted, once you say you're not interested and they keep contacting you, that a whole other topic
yeah that's what i was trying to tell him, it sounds good in theory to tell someone to just say i'm not interested. but once you do that, you open up the floodgates for stupidity- "why not?" "i'm a nice guy, you must be a b!tch cause you're not into me" and on and on. if i ignore someone they usually give up and go away. |
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it's all a learning process young grasshoppa
eh, i'm still learning and i'm wayyy past the grasshopper stage
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damn...lol..see the funny thing is that we were dancing spanish music and we had a lot of fun...she even started rubbing on me...it was too many signals to ignore...basically this caught me off guard...u know how spanish men dance merengue, salsa and bachata...funniest thing of it all..she got pissed cause some girl kept constantly trying to talk to me and get me to dance with her..so in front of her and this girl..i told her..listen i'm with someone..i cant do that..so the other girl left..and she was so happy i said that...thats when she started kissing me even more..again i could had her in my bed by the end of the night but decided not to...out of respect to her..but its cool...its a learning process...I'm decent..so i'll find another girl...=D
damn though damn it...she was hot..lol..but ok..yesterday i was feeling really bad...today not so much.i think the move on stage started...i really appreciate your opinions....i think i blew it by caring..honestly...i wished she could just said "hey im a little busy, i'll call you later or tomorrow..." and it was done...but not playing these little games..she's 27 yrs old and i'm 24...i'm more mature than her it seems like...but oh well.... |
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damn...lol..see the funny thing is that we were dancing spanish music and we had a lot of fun...she even started rubbing on me...it was too many signals to ignore...basically this caught me off guard...u know how spanish men dance merengue, salsa and bachata...funniest thing of it all..she got pissed cause some girl kept constantly trying to talk to me and get me to dance with her..so in front of her and this girl..i told her..listen i'm with someone..i cant do that..so the other girl left..and she was so happy i said that...thats when she started kissing me even more..again i could had her in my bed by the end of the night but decided not to...out of respect to her..but its cool...its a learning process...I'm decent..so i'll find another girl...=D
damn though damn it...she was hot..lol..but ok..yesterday i was feeling really bad...today not so much.i think the move on stage started...i really appreciate your opinions....i think i blew it by caring..honestly...i wished she could just said "hey im a little busy, i'll call you later or tomorrow..." and it was done...but not playing these little games..she's 27 yrs old and i'm 24...i'm more mature than her it seems like...but oh well.... |
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Unfortunately this isn't uncommon. As a rule on the first couple of dates I would call once and maybe email or text once (not in close succession. If neither receives a response, then let it go. The chances that something has happened to them are very slim. The chance that she's blowing you off is nearly 100%. And when someone is trying to avoid you and you, despite your good intentions, are trying to contact her, she will see it as stalking....mainly because she is looking for an excuse. Word of advice: If you're calling a cell, it can get lost. I've lost mine before and had another one die. Also, for emails - my computer died and I got another one a couple of months later. Still I say try on two different mediums, once on each, then let it go. What are the odds that you lost access to both your phone and your email, and at the very same time as you were starting to date? And, if that did happen, and you wanted to continue the relationship, wouldn't you, knowing your phone and email avenues were down, try to contact the other party yourself? I think the odds are far greater that she was ignoring him. I see what you're saying. I think the odds are greater that she was ignoring him after what she said. When I lost my cell, btw, my numbers were in my cell and no where else. 
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When I lost my cell, btw, my numbers were in my cell and no where else.
Yeah, I'd be paralyzed if I lost my cell 
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