ok Kyle...I'm a blunt kinda girl. you are having trouble because your mindset. yes it takes time...but you have to work on it as well. don't just think it will happen over night. and coming back from vacation...knowing you are coming back to her living there....doesn't help. seriously...get your own place. if she isn't on the lease (check with your state) but most states require a 30 day notice for month to month. if she isn't on the lease...then that is what she would be since she is living there. but as long as she is there...you can't move on.