Topic: Help!!! Do I say something?
plk1966's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:44 PM

:smile: Letting this guy find another woman and be cheating would be worse that telling your friend before that happens:smile:


I agree Mirror...........a REAL friend would tell her before it gets too late

littleike's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:45 PM

:smile: send her the link to his profile:smile:
i would also do this one. send her the link like mirror says and let her see then your out of it scott clean

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Sun 06/28/09 05:47 PM



I just joined this site last night. I was just searching for people around my area when to my surprise I find my best friends husband! She is currently almost 6 months pregnant and it says he hasnt been on for a month. Do I tell her?!?! We are basically sisters....we have known each other since we were 4. And we both know he has cheated in the past. Do I try and let it go? And let them maybe be happy again. It says hes unhappily married and looking for intimate relationships. I dont want to hurt her and stress her being this pregnant but Ive never trusted him and honestly I dont think she ever has either. And if he ever logs back in hes gonna see that I looked at his profile. Think maybe that will be enough for him to stop???? More then likely not. I just do not want to hurt her. She has two other kids as well that call him dad and hes basically the only dad they have ever known. Ive never been in this situation and I just think either decision is going to hurt her, whether I tell her or not. And honestly guys this is why some girls have a problem with trust. I seen this happen a couple of times to different friends of mine and it makes me nervous to find someone who truely wants me and only me. Any suggestions are welcome.



(Confront him,let him know.)

She is pregnant,might cause harm to the baby,letting her know.



:smile: nah:smile:



If i was her ( Best Friend )

I would confront him first!

Tootsweet13's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:47 PM
I agree about sending her the link, but I would also copy and paste what you could as proof in case he deletes his profile. Any way to do a screen shot?

It sucks to be the hated messenger, but don't you think she would rather know? I know I would.

catseyes1's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:48 PM
I know she is you best friend but I would not play with fire, eventually she will find out. If you tell her it could cause heartach in your friendship.

littleike's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:48 PM

I agree about sending her the link, but I would also copy and paste what you could as proof in case he deletes his profile. Any way to do a screen shot?

It sucks to be the hated messenger, but don't you think she would rather know? I know I would.
your so right. the link is the best sulution

yellowrose10's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:49 PM

I agree about sending her the link, but I would also copy and paste what you could as proof in case he deletes his profile. Any way to do a screen shot?

It sucks to be the hated messenger, but don't you think she would rather know? I know I would.


I believe you can do a print screen

misstina2's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:49 PM

I agree about sending her the link, but I would also copy and paste what you could as proof in case he deletes his profile. Any way to do a screen shot?

It sucks to be the hated messenger, but don't you think she would rather know? I know I would.
yes he'll probaly delete it.I'd risk my friendship knowing it was the right thing to doflowerforyou

yellowrose10's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:50 PM

I know she is you best friend but I would not play with fire, eventually she will find out. If you tell her it could cause heartach in your friendship.


but when the friend finds out it could cause more trouble and heartache

yellowrose10's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:51 PM
you can do copy/paste of a profile (includes pics) and paste it to an email

I just tested it on myself

moonswoon's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:52 PM
I think you should do what you feel is best. Me, I would want to know. She's your best friend. Do what you feel she would want. I would do the screen print.

littleike's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:52 PM


I know she is you best friend but I would not play with fire, eventually she will find out. If you tell her it could cause heartach in your friendship.


but when the friend finds out it could cause more trouble and heartache
at least she meaning the member here on mingle, did the right and morral thing. it sounds as there bestfriends from 4 grade, ifs shes a true friend she will understand

plk1966's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:53 PM
My exhusband cheated on me. Some of my friends and family knew about it and never said a damn thing to me. I felt hurt and betrayed not only by the man that I loved but my close friends and family as well.

Honesty is always the best policy

FireOfThePhoenix's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:54 PM
Edited by FireOfThePhoenix on Sun 06/28/09 05:55 PM
I'd make sure to have a saved copy of his profile then confront him, let him know you are aware and will pass the information on unless he comes clean to her about. That puts the responsibility for his actions on his shoulders about his naughtiness not yours. Let him know you will show the information to her if he doesn't, and that you have a copy even if he deactivates his acount without mentioning it to her

Tootsweet13's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:54 PM

My exhusband cheated on me. Some of my friends and family knew about it and never said a damn thing to me. I felt hurt and betrayed not only by the man that I loved but my close friends and family as well.

Honesty is always the best policy


I agree. Having loved ones know about it and discuss it behind your back adds insult to injury.

yellowrose10's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:55 PM



I know she is you best friend but I would not play with fire, eventually she will find out. If you tell her it could cause heartach in your friendship.


but when the friend finds out it could cause more trouble and heartache
at least she meaning the member here on mingle, did the right and morral thing. it sounds as there bestfriends from 4 grade, ifs shes a true friend she will understand


that's what I'm saying. when the friend finds out later...could be worse. and as said before...if he is cheating...he could get someone else pregnant or STD.

littleike's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:55 PM

My exhusband cheated on me. Some of my friends and family knew about it and never said a damn thing to me. I felt hurt and betrayed not only by the man that I loved but my close friends and family as well.

Honesty is always the best policy
very well put and i totaly agree

hotrodgod's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:55 PM
send the link....send the link.... send the link...drinker drinker drinker drinker drinker :banana: :banana: :banana: :banana: :banana: rofl rofl rofl rofl

misstina2's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:56 PM
flowerforyou bottom line for me we're talking about passing on possible diseases here even to the babyflowerforyou This guy is most likely cheating alreadyflowerforyou

alternativa's photo
Sun 06/28/09 05:56 PM

I just joined this site last night. I was just searching for people around my area when to my surprise I find my best friends husband! She is currently almost 6 months pregnant and it says he hasnt been on for a month. Do I tell her?!?! We are basically sisters....we have known each other since we were 4. And we both know he has cheated in the past. Do I try and let it go? And let them maybe be happy again. It says hes unhappily married and looking for intimate relationships. I dont want to hurt her and stress her being this pregnant but Ive never trusted him and honestly I dont think she ever has either. And if he ever logs back in hes gonna see that I looked at his profile. Think maybe that will be enough for him to stop???? More then likely not. I just do not want to hurt her. She has two other kids as well that call him dad and hes basically the only dad they have ever known. Ive never been in this situation and I just think either decision is going to hurt her, whether I tell her or not. And honestly guys this is why some girls have a problem with trust. I seen this happen a couple of times to different friends of mine and it makes me nervous to find someone who truely wants me and only me. Any suggestions are welcome.


If it was me, I would want to know and my friends know me well enough to know this. I’d not trust the man after the first time. I’d have problems trusting a friend who knew and kept his secret instead of telling me.

You know your friend better than we do. Some people wouldn’t want to know and will deny it’s true and end a friendship if told. Some would want to know and toss the jerk before he brought home a gift that kept on giving. You’ve known your friend long enough to know which she would prefer and what she’s capable of handling. Just remember that she’s going to need her friends more than ever, pregnancy or not.