Do you think they have more to offer or is there loss to magor and will never foget there first spouse

only if they made themselves a widow and insurance money was involved

baggage is baggage, no matter how a person came about it....lol

Yeah. I'd especially be weary if they've been "widowed" seven times previous.

Depends on how long ago they were widow(er)ed.

Been there. Know the pain. If it's too close to the death, it's too soon.

Why would I be afraid of a woman who lost her spouse through death? I'm a helluva lot more afraid of a three time divorced woman who has kids from each marriage.

Thank you!

Absolutely. You nailed it.

I THINK SOMETIMES I TURN GUYS OFF BECAUSE IAM WIDOWED. THEY THINK I JUST LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO MARRY AND REPLACE MY HUSBAND

Well said !

Then those guys are idiots.

Those are the men who don't understand where YOU are coming from.

At least that was my experience...

there was a guy on the other night who prefered widowers

You mean the one that wanted to give all "lonely widows sex"??

yes that guy

Yeah we hurried to line up at THAT door!

good luck

Being both divorced and widowed I see how people could have reservations about either. Not everyone who looses a spouse had a good marriage but at least they chose to be in it and that tells me that it is a relationship they feel comfortable to attempt at least once and went the distance. While I know that many people get divorced for a variety of reasons but I have sadly found that for a lot of people there is a good reason they are single. I will say I have much more respect for someone who gives a bad spouse the boot rather than spending years as a victim. People who are multiply divorced sometimes have good reason. Blending families with children is a major challenge. If you add in special needs family members, catesrophic financial hurdles, or even natural disasters it can be more than some can handle.