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Topic: What is it ?
STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Tue 06/23/09 08:18 PM
Please Recycle! Thank you! I have a burning pit out back for you ! I fell into that burning ring of fire. I went down, down, down, and the flames went higher. More gas !

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 06/23/09 08:18 PM
i beleive its selfishness... Yup, that would be it.

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Tue 06/23/09 08:18 PM
Do you mean marriage? and mr! you have... so do you consider yourself that way? I was in it for the long haul, boy was i wrong! I'm not worried i will find a decent person

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Tue 06/23/09 08:18 PM
That makes one Human being think it's ok to use another for they're own purposes and then just discard them ? Okay, my first response wasn't serious. Anyway, it is a psychological thing, either one or both parents were not present through the childhood. So the child grew up having to use other people to get from point A to point B, this carries with them with no one to show them any other way of getting what they want. Now they grow up and want this but in the easiest manner possible, instead of working for it they decide they will take it...targeting usually the most vulnerable people (just out of a bad break-up, divorce, widow, older usually)...wahlah, there you have it. Wahlah ! Thats pretty deep ! That's the shorter way of putting it, there are actually quite a few pages that can be written on the subject. I just covered the jist of it.

1mellowguy Joined Tue 06/16/09 Posts: 439	Tue 06/23/09 08:18 PM
Here is a plain and simple response...we let them...and a play for revenge is only hurting you. I tend to let it go, learn my lesson, and make new friends.

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Tue 06/23/09 08:19 PM
That makes one Human being think it's ok to use another for they're own purposes and then just discard them ? I do believe that is called marriage...Oh drat! Pats beat me to it... you have never been married..... so how can you even say that? Pats taught me well.

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Tue 06/23/09 08:20 PM
or unhappiness with in theirself Maybe but why do they feel it's ok to take someone down with them ? i dont consider it taking someone down, but do consider it making someone realizing that they werent worthy of the others time... and sometimes too much time is involved.. but really that was choice.. and maybe lesson learned...

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Tue 06/23/09 08:21 PM
Here is a plain and simple response...we let them...and a play for revenge is only hurting you. I tend to let it go, learn my lesson, and make new friends. now that is smart thinking in my eyes

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Tue 06/23/09 08:23 PM
or unhappiness with in theirself Maybe but why do they feel it's ok to take someone down with them ? misery loves misery..... watch out for it

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Tue 06/23/09 08:25 PM
or unhappiness with in theirself Maybe but why do they feel it's ok to take someone down with them ? misery loves misery..... watch out for it Ok that can be true too !

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Tue 06/23/09 08:26 PM
That makes one Human being think it's ok to use another for they're own purposes and then just discard them ? Okay, my first response wasn't serious. Anyway, it is a psychological thing, either one or both parents were not present through the childhood. So the child grew up having to use other people to get from point A to point B, this carries with them with no one to show them any other way of getting what they want. Now they grow up and want this but in the easiest manner possible, instead of working for it they decide they will take it...targeting usually the most vulnerable people (just out of a bad break-up, divorce, widow, older usually)...wahlah, there you have it. wow!!! maybe you havent met the right people <or shall i say the wrong?> lmao!!!! thats like saying all well off people are stuck up! so not true..those are just the well off people with issues just as poor people have issues...

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Tue 06/23/09 08:30 PM
Do you mean marriage? and mr! you have... so do you consider yourself that way? I was in it for the long haul, boy was i wrong! I'm not worried i will find a decent person or you could be suckered again.... without marriage dear!

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Tue 06/23/09 08:30 PM Edited by STARTRAVELER on Tue 06/23/09 08:31 PM
I just have a hard time reasoning why a person that is that selfish and miserable feels that everyone should join him or her in that state of mind .I guess I just ca'nt think in those terms !

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Tue 06/23/09 08:31 PM
Do you mean marriage? and mr! you have... so do you consider yourself that way? I was in it for the long haul, boy was i wrong! I'm not worried i will find a decent person I hope we all do Pat !

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Tue 06/23/09 08:33 PM
Do you mean marriage? and mr! you have... so do you consider yourself that way? I was in it for the long haul, boy was i wrong! I'm not worried i will find a decent person or you could be suckered again.... without marriage dear! Ouch that hurt !

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Tue 06/23/09 08:34 PM
Do you mean marriage? and mr! you have... so do you consider yourself that way? I was in it for the long haul, boy was i wrong! I'm not worried i will find a decent person or you could be suckered again.... without marriage dear! There will be no more marriages for me!

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Tue 06/23/09 08:35 PM
Do you mean marriage? and mr! you have... so do you consider yourself that way? I was in it for the long haul, boy was i wrong! I'm not worried i will find a decent person I hope we all do Pat ! I believe it's possible with some careful searching

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Tue 06/23/09 08:37 PM
I believe your right !

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Tue 06/23/09 08:39 PM
I just have a hard time reasoning why a person that is that selfish and miserable feels that everyone should join him or her in that state of mind .I guess I just ca'nt think in those terms ! why waste you energies on something like that when they coud be spent elsewhere doing much better things?

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Tue 06/23/09 08:41 PM
Do you mean marriage? and mr! you have... so do you consider yourself that way? I was in it for the long haul, boy was i wrong! I'm not worried i will find a decent person or you could be suckered again.... without marriage dear! There will be no more marriages for me! it wont always be like that.... for you seem to have values and hope will come back soon... you deserve the best and never forget that!!! just cause one could not give that to you doesnt mean in the future someone else cant...remember dont make someone else pay for others that have wronged you...