Some of you on here know about the lady I have been dating from my work,I have known her for 6 months as a friend and we have now had our 4th date,well last night on our date she started hinting about us moving in together,this is moving way to fast for me,and also I have been noticing that she has been becoming very codependent,she is constantly around me at work now,as we are both managers in our building I don't think this is the correct way for her to act toward me at our place of work.I have had this same problem in the past in prior relationships,I see only disaster in continuing a personal relationship with this woman,also I believe it is about time I break this cycle I have been in all my life dating woman with all these emotional issues,my longest relationship had even made me ill with stress and a stomach ulcer she had extremely low self esteem,as this woman I am now seeing,but also I really don't like having to hurt someone,I care for this woman,but only as a friend,but I just can't keep repeating this cycle anymore,I would still like to be her friend but not be romantic involved with her,any advice would help.

be honest with her. I would rather hear the truth whether I like it or not. I can deal with the truth...not a lie. Just let her know things are going too fast and you wold like to slow down

Runnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!!!

No, you know what to do.

Sounds like you need to stop dating women that you work with...jmo

Where are all the normal woman at.

Honesty is always the best policy. I would rather hear the truth form someone, even if it hurt, than to hear a sugar coated lie. If you really feel the way you do then you should tell her in the exact words that you've told us. It may hurt her feelings, but I assure you it will be better than letting it go on or lieing.

Like your new pic Gypsy oh and your pretty

and when you said "it's getting deep"..................i thought we were gonna get to talk about different kinds of poo....
poo's fun! damn! well, that's ok....

you're a strong man and women are attracted to that, but sometimes have a daddy complex too, an acceptive type issue, and it maybe hard for her to open up to you about this, but you can try, just gently say spill, let's see where this comes from, and get her confidence back, and see if it improves things, for if it does not, it could cause severe issues with work, and the way the job market is.......

another thing, it might be worth the effort for you know beyond a doubt she will be faithful, and there for you, looks like a little too much there right now, but communication will possibly avoid disaster, and may be awesome after that! keep your head up man

well, i wish you the best of luck!!!

I think one of the reasons I attract woman like her,I am a very calm person,woman have always told me I seem to have an inner peace about myself,I suppose one could call it a strength,actually I just don't allow to much drama in my life.

Don't date co-workers. EVER!!!

Here is a question: if you don't allow drama in your life why do you attract the women who are dramatic?

Yep. Never a good idea to date a coworker.

Opposites seem to attract besides she's really nice and reaaly beautiful,HEY I'M A GUY OK.

You aren't getting it. But hey, as long as she's hot who cares?

the point is...if you don't want this kind of thing in your life (drama, co-dependant, etc) then YOU have to put a stop to it. If you don't see it until after, then when you see it...YOU say enough. It's up to you

and I agree...dating co-workers are not a good idea....if the break up is bad, then you still have to work with them

I would say you need to change who you let in your life. If you knew her as a friend for so long then you should have picked up on some of the issues. Take a step back and look at the last four people dated who displayed these behavior traits. You will see some sort of a pattern. Don't let looks and lust blind you.

Take care and best of luck,

B

Marry her

I am just admitting to what woman are always telling us that men think to much down South.

And you believe women think about sex less than men?

Women love it when i go down south