you dont have nor want kids. so how can you say you would pick up and leave your children for a woman. children are the best part if almost the only part of ourselves in the end. would you acccept a woman that left her children for a man???

If she had kids but they didnt live with her

well this is different than from what Im asking.....Im not sure of your resume that would enable you to obtain a job elsewhere easily.........(and in this world right now, that does matter)
but you would take your child.


i have a custody agreement that my ex hsuband kinda controls me with. i cant move within 2 hrs from him. (without a judges approval) and I kinda respect that, because he IS a wonderful father who sees his son twice a week and is awesome in paying support. I wouldnt move my son that far from his daddy.

because it is beneficial to my son (and me)


but we each have our own situations.......
if he was less awesome in his divorced parenting skills...maybe I wldnt feel the same.

in able to have your own children you must be able and available to provide existance to them. to just pick up and leave to a far off distant land without the funds to see them again on a regular basis is just absurd. to leave your own flesh and blood to begin with is just sick unless you have a time table on which you will be seeing them regulary.
men are a dime a dozen, and yes true love is'nt, i know this. but both parties must make and take the time and effort to make those children feel accepted. these are innocent children who need and crave love from either party, mother or father, hopefully both.

geeze i was with whats his face the guy i met on here, i had even thought about moving close to him. but i thought about my kids and my family. and i wasent about to take that risk. and im glad i didnt.(my kids dont live with me)

I wouldnt uproot my kids for a dsitane that was too far from our family.

and i definately wouldnt move that fr from my family (let alone my kids)

but hey thats me

so its a double standard that i cant move somewhere within 8 hours of my kids when i dont have custody but my x can move across country with my kids??

I don't believe love exists on line

I will move if it works out for us, but I won't do it until my son graduates in 5 years. Just because we find love, doesn't mean the kids have to suffer.

If it is really love, then it work out somehow.

very nicely put TxsSun!!!

I think it's highly unlikely -- and this from the standpoint of someone who has absolutely no reason to stay where I am right now, other than sheer inertia --

I'm skeptical about people on line -- having been through enough dating site arsonists and phony kidnap victims and bogus bank tellers and so on -- and it would take a long time for me to even begin to consider thinking about the possibility of someday wanting to hope to wish I could maybe ponder over the possibility of trusting someone again.

The kids thing doesn't enter into it since I don't have any and won't get involved with anyone who does.

So -- would I move? The odds are against it.

that makes no sense to me. doesnt your x have to get your approval before making a move like that??

and if you have the finances to see your kids frequently and still be a parent.....it shouldnt matter how far you move.

but u should have rights to prevent her from moving. my x does

its chancy to turn online love into the real thing.......