I have a close friend who has recently, it seems, over the last month or so taken to not answering or returning my calls. It has been our pattern that we talk at least once a week to catch up on what is happening in each others lives. She has very briefly replied to a few emails and says she misses me, but apparently not enough to want to talk to me. I know that if I say anything about it, it will probably make her mad. So before I go and do that, I thought I would run it past a few of you to see if I am over thinking this. What do you think?

Maybe she's getting some, or not getting some, whichever would change the pattern of phone calls.

a close friend you should be able to talk to and question if you think something about your relationship has changed. if you think she would get mad, then i would question how good of friends you really are.

If she is such a close friend you should feel free to ask where what the deal is with out getting her mad/upset.. if you don't you two are obviously not that close..

I agree with Ella and Bastet.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

Youre welcome sugar

I had a friend like that. We kept in close contact when she was in treatment. Gave her some advice that got her out of a state of depression and changed her life. Now she's apparently too busy to talk to me. I don't sweat it. I just let her go and focus on my own concerns. Maybe she'll come back around if she sees me on the right track or really wants to talk about something again. If not, meh.

email her the link

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maybe that's not such a good idea

Your friend will get mad at you if you tell her she is hurting your feelings?

She is a great person, but overreaction is a fault of her's. We all have our imperfections. One of mine is to be overly sensitive sometimes. When we fight it is no small thing. lol

It's not an imperfection to get angry with someone if they tell them their behavior is hurting their feelings.

Perhaps, but how do you tell that someone who is prone to overreaction without starting a fight?

My friend and I talk everyday, but if see is dating someone, then I don't hear from her near as much. Maybe that is what is going on with your friend. When the relationship is over I usually hear from her everyday again. What are best friends for if you can't count on them to be there to pick of the pieces? I wouldn't give up my best friend for anything. Is there anyway you two could get together in person for a day of fun?

She is married and even though she is on the verge of divorce, it is highly unlikely she would be seeing someone else, it's not her style. We do try to get together as often our schedules allow.

It's not an imperfection, it is a character flaw. She is obviously not very empathetic. And it is not okay to get upset with a person if she is the one who hurt you. That's pathological and it's selfish. If she is a good friend, she would know you are sensitive and that her behavior is likely hurting you. That she does not inherently know this... that says a lot. If you "fight"... hmmm.

I have a friend of five years, by BFF. We've NEVER gotten into a fight.

I think its a tough situation to be in. Sounds to me that you value her companionship. How unfortunate.

Roko