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Topic: Sorry about this guy's..........
ReddBeans's photo
Sun 06/07/09 07:24 PM

Guys really don't treat me this way because I don't let them. Maybe it's more in your hands than you think? I just watched "He's just not that into you" and the basic premise is that if a guy really wants to date you, he WILL put in the effort. If you're always putting in more effort than the guy you won't ever have success with men.


Watched that movie the other night. Found it very interestin. I think Greg might know what he's talkin about. Opened my eyes to a few things. I'm gonna get the book an see if it can open my eyes even more. shades

DTHRomeo's photo
Sun 06/07/09 07:24 PM

Ladie's, do you ever want to just give up on finding a SO because every guy seem's to be a dog? Even before you got to meet him face to face?


I wish the same on Lunachicks ohwell

shoesmonkey's photo
Sun 06/07/09 07:25 PM


We've been chatting for a week. He finally asked for my email address today. Now, I'm sorry that I gave it to him.


Can there be the possibility of that you might have said something to scare him away and it's not his fault?

I'm just saying it, because if I look back and see why I couldn't keep somebody was perhaps that it was I, who said something or as the talk went on, she realized I am not the one she was looking for. Is there a possibility that he has came to the same conclusion and just wanted to end it before it could become more and the breakup would be more painful?

Anyway...sorry to hear that it didn't work out. ohwell flowerforyou
We were talking about like's and dislike's about food.

FearandLoathing's photo
Sun 06/07/09 07:26 PM
Maybe you should try eating people...I find it comforting.happy

Jules0565's photo
Sun 06/07/09 07:27 PM
I feel it's rare that a relationship builds... because.... the internet has toooooo many OPTIONS. Some one new ALWAYS in the next email, instant message or whatever. Two people really never get a "fair" chance to get to know each other. JMO

Atlantis75's photo
Sun 06/07/09 07:28 PM


We were talking about like's and dislike's about food.


But not for the whole week, right?

shoesmonkey's photo
Sun 06/07/09 07:28 PM

I feel it's rare that a relationship builds... because.... the internet has toooooo many OPTIONS. Some one new ALWAYS in the next email, instant message or whatever. Two people really never get a "fair" chance to get to know each other. JMO
I totaly agree with you. For some, they want to try EVERY piece of candy in the store.

shoesmonkey's photo
Sun 06/07/09 07:28 PM



We were talking about like's and dislike's about food.


But not for the whole week, right?
No, silly. Of course not.

buttons's photo
Sun 06/07/09 07:30 PM
laugh

Dogs are what ya train em to bespock
laugh laugh roll over and eat your desertlaugh laugh laugh

Atlantis75's photo
Sun 06/07/09 07:31 PM




We were talking about like's and dislike's about food.


But not for the whole week, right?
No, silly. Of course not.


My best guess is, he either found someone else or he had issues he didn't say and didn't want to drag you into his problems.

It could be that he talked to others beside you, at the same time. This is typical for both men and women searching for "the one".

shoesmonkey's photo
Sun 06/07/09 07:33 PM





We were talking about like's and dislike's about food.


But not for the whole week, right?
No, silly. Of course not.


My best guess is, he either found someone else or he had issues he didn't say and didn't want to drag you into his problems.

It could be that he talked to others beside you, at the same time. This is typical for both men and women searching for "the one".
Oh, I'm quite sure that you're right. he had wanted me to meet him for the first time at the mall. While he had his children with him . That didn't sit well with me. And no, I didn't go.

romeo1975's photo
Sun 06/07/09 07:35 PM
i am just looking for the one woman to give me a chance, to prove not all the men are the same

Atlantis75's photo
Sun 06/07/09 07:38 PM
Edited by Atlantis75 on Sun 06/07/09 07:38 PM

It could be that he talked to others beside you, at the same time. This is typical for both men and women searching for "the one".
Oh, I'm quite sure that you're right. he had wanted me to meet him for the first time at the mall. While he had his children with him . That didn't sit well with me. And no, I didn't go.


Going by the logic - he could have hired a babysitter for one day or leave the kids with a relative...yeah I think you made the right decision by not going, It's kinda weird if someone would want to bring kids to a date, especially the first one.

no photo
Sun 06/07/09 08:16 PM
Edited by michiganman3 on Sun 06/07/09 08:17 PM
Do you think you would have gone out with this guy if you had been getting to know him a bit face to face, before a 'real date'?

Sometimes I think the less time e-mailing/chatting is better because fewer expectations are built up, less anxiety when meeting for the first time, less of an investment.

On the other hand you do want a bit of a connection before going out too.

Finding out he's a 'dog' before meeting him is a good thing I would think.


agbbieannie's photo
Sun 06/07/09 08:18 PM
:banana: :banana: :banana: HOPE you gotta have hope.............:banana:

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Sun 06/07/09 08:24 PM

Ladie's, do you ever want to just give up on finding a SO because every guy seem's to be a dog? Even before you got to meet him face to face?

Woof Woof......

All I want is my belly rubbed.....

msmyka's photo
Sun 06/07/09 08:29 PM


Ladie's, do you ever want to just give up on finding a SO because every guy seem's to be a dog? Even before you got to meet him face to face?

Woof Woof......

All I want is my belly rubbed.....


:tongue:

XxAchillesxX's photo
Sun 06/07/09 10:42 PM

Yeah, every time I get screwed over. Then, I force myself to keep in mind that you can't blame the rest of them for the bad ones. There are plenty of good guys out there, whether for a partner, friend, or just to chat for a moment when online or in the grocery line.

flowers >>>>To all the TRUELY good guys.


That's the right idea, never give up! biggrin

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