Thank you for your help!!!

Id say I understand his anger, and that his father is a sick man, and that we were blessed to not have to deal with him, and also that our path may be different than some other peoples path whos daddies are better, but ours is good, and meant to be, and that we have many good things without him.

As long as he understands the possible outcomes, and understands the legal and physical (though admittedly, not much physically)...have at it, I despise tweakers/meth heads/crack heads. Went toe to toe with plenty of them since I was about 12...and I never started the fights.

no punching in face, but kicking in butt might work..

writing a letter....and so what can he say in a letter that will be interpreted correctly...? the written word is powerful, but it can be misinterpreted easily....

I agree let him express his anger and be there when all said and done.

where can i place a bet at ????

My daughter was extremely hurt by her dad's turning his back on her. She never ever expressed anger towards him, but did towards me, it was my fault because I divorced him and made him leave. He was a hard core violent alcoholic, but she saw me as the "bad guy" for making him leave. He paid her no attention (or any child support either), only broken promises all her life (divorced him when she was 5 y/o).

I understand his feelings of hurt and abandonment, it would do him good, I would think, to get them out, but not necessarily in a physical form, but you know that. If he could write him a letter expressing his anger or even sit down and talk to him, but that would be hard face to face after all the years. My daughter did make some peace with her dad before he died when she was 18. (He drank himself to death at the ripe old age of 45.)

It is a really hard situation Gyps, I hope he can come to terms with his anger and feelings. Take care.