Topic: Torn
Italy0219's photo
Thu 06/04/09 04:58 PM
Help!! What should I do? I been dating this guy for over a year now, we are quite compatible but have some differences that seem to get under my skin, and we don't live together yet, so I imagine when and if we do that it will really bother me. On another website, there is a guy who has asked me out for a drink, would this be viewed as cheating? Then what would happen if there is a spark?

moonlight_ride62's photo
Thu 06/04/09 05:00 PM
I would go for the drink but do nothing more...and just see...if you feel in your heart it is cheating then don't do it..

ISU_GUY25's photo
Thu 06/04/09 05:01 PM
No its not cheating its a drink with a friend. If something happens then its cheating other wise enjoy your drink and the good company

Italy0219's photo
Thu 06/04/09 05:03 PM

No its not cheating its a drink with a friend. If something happens then its cheating other wise enjoy your drink and the good company



Hey thanks for making your first post for me, and welcome!!

no photo
Thu 06/04/09 05:06 PM

Help!! What should I do? I been dating this guy for over a year now, we are quite compatible but have some differences that seem to get under my skin, and we don't live together yet, so I imagine when and if we do that it will really bother me. On another website, there is a guy who has asked me out for a drink, would this be viewed as cheating? Then what would happen if there is a spark?


Aren't you already doubting the relationship enough to consider going out with someone else?
What are you really looking for,,,, permission or validation?

Gossipmpm's photo
Thu 06/04/09 05:08 PM
Go for the drink

Who knows.....

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Thu 06/04/09 05:14 PM

Help!! What should I do? I been dating this guy for over a year now, we are quite compatible but have some differences that seem to get under my skin, and we don't live together yet, so I imagine when and if we do that it will really bother me. On another website, there is a guy who has asked me out for a drink, would this be viewed as cheating? Then what would happen if there is a spark?


So what are the differences that get under your skin? Is it like he leaves the toilet seat up or something more serious?

I think you need to weigh that along with your long term goals of what you want in life. If your current relationship has the possibility of being a dead end, you should keep your options open and go out for the drink.

JMO drinker

ledi180's photo
Thu 06/04/09 05:19 PM
Will you tell your b/f that you are going for this drink?

silly's photo
Thu 06/04/09 05:20 PM
If the differences really bother u now, then just think how much they would bother u if u were to move in to gether.indifferent

Go for the drink its just a drink with a friend.flowerforyou

misstina2's photo
Thu 06/04/09 05:21 PM
flowerforyou if i'm interested enough to think of moving in with someone the thought of going to have a drink with another man never occursflowerforyou I don't think you really love the man you are considering moving in withflowerforyou

Dragoness's photo
Thu 06/04/09 05:21 PM

Help!! What should I do? I been dating this guy for over a year now, we are quite compatible but have some differences that seem to get under my skin, and we don't live together yet, so I imagine when and if we do that it will really bother me. On another website, there is a guy who has asked me out for a drink, would this be viewed as cheating? Then what would happen if there is a spark?


The fact you are considering this other date tells me that the relationship you have has run it's course. Time to move on, you are wasting both of your time.

That is what I see.

I would let your long term dater know that you are dating others and let him do the same.