i was just wondering if it makes me a total asshole because i would like to break up with the girl i am dating because i just lost intrest. shes a total sweetheart and all its just i dont feel like our personalities are on par and i dont want to string her out knowing ive lost intrest.

so tell me mingle2 formally justsayhi...
am i a d%ck because i so feel like one

depends on how you break up with her. IMO..you shouldn't stay if there is no connection

double post

Nah, youd be one if you didnt tell her, and even worse had sex with someone else.

thats the problem
i dont wanna be that tard with the its not u its me thing
because it is me all the way
i dont know how to do it nicely and i really dont want to hurt her she truly is a sweet girl
IM SO CONFUSED

I agree with the ladies

You're not a jerk b/c you're not feeling it for someone.. heck I'm the biggest jerk in the world if that's the case... How you handle it could make you a jerk like Rose said... I think it's great that you're being honest about your feelings and not wanting to string someone along.. Good luck...

Well, maybe youll get lucky, and she just wants to get rid of you too.

lol
no worries there i am if nothing else completely faithful while in a relationship

Yep that and what you have already said to her. If you have been telling her she is the one, for example.

as a jackass i debated just kinda flaking off and letting her break up with me cause i dont want to hurt her

ha ha,.. well, the best you can do is be nice, and tell her u need to move on, and your sorry.. you kow you could also say... its just not working out.. i mean.. shes gotta already have signs..

yea i guess...
i did kinda shrug her off today
but i so had plans well before she decided to come by
i dunno
i wanna just tell her shes awesome... ima weirdo
it just kinda hit last time we were hanging out
i was like wow... i dont care what shes talking about
and i still havent figured out why besides the fact that i do kinda feel like i have to edit myself around her cause shes kinda kiddish

i would like to go ahead and thank yall for the advice
it is mucho appreciated

I dk, i would imagine, your 22.. whats the odds that u stay together long term? Shell get over it.. Go live life.

shes had a ruff life
for some reason people were way mean to her in high school and now shes super emo about it most the time and she always says that i make the world right for her... i make her feel like she has a purpose

c'mon seriously
how do i compete with that...
its not even fair
im all that and last thing i remember thinking when she was talkin about some random song she likes is wow... I HATE THAT SONG
no fair no fair no fair

the dreaded friendzone - best to tell her you like her but you don't like her like her and that it will be best ifn you don't see each other for a couple of months at least.

otherwise, bermuda triangle

lol
no i wouldnt even go friendzone
thats a sick lie
her personality isnt on par at all

see their i go being an asshole
....
shes sweet...
just not...
yea

Yeah, you need a codependant mess right? I know, its sad, but one thing she could maybe use to understand is that she needs to find her own purpose, for her, not in a man, or anyone else. Whats not fair is you lying to her, and acting like its ok.. life is full of ups and downs and this is one of them.. give her a little credit, she doesnt NEED to cling to someone who doesnt want her, and give the girl the opportuinty to find someone who WANTS her, and appreciates her for who SHE is. You would otherwise be keeping her from having what you so think she deserves.

Shell get it later, besides, you found her attractive, and interesting, someone else will also.

you need a spot on dr phil
lol
you have a gift