You know it's a real shame that I get dismissed instantly by women at first glance because I'm in a wheelchair. I wasn't born like this and I'll be damned if I'm going to die like this. I was injured in a car accident from about the waist down in a car accident 3years ago. There is so much more to me than a wheelchair, but only the women who take the time to get to know me are going to find that out. Even then though; I have this really good female friend who I relate to on every level, but I know the only reason we aren't a couple is because I'm in a wheelchair. I've always been told I'm a cute guy; tall and well built, nice smile and eyes. I really hope that there are openminded women out there who are willing to look past this. I've probably got more money than most people will see in a lifetime (thanks to a lawsuit stemming from the accident) and if I have to spend all of it to walk again then that is what I have to do. I'm frustrated with always being passed over because of this damn wheelchair. I understand people's feelings about it because I walked for almost 27 years, but now I realize it isn't right. This isn't a weakness, its a sign of strength. It's so much harder to live with a disability than it is to live without one. Trust me, I've lived on both sides of that coin

I can see you are a strong person and you will meet your goals. The girls that are superficial about the wheel chair you should laugh at and send on their way. They don't deserve someone as good as you. Keep your chin up. You will make it just fine!

wow. my heart goes out to you man...

and your doing the right thing dont tell those skanks about your $ cuz they will just want to use you.

maybe you should try wheelchair dating....its 2009 they have everything going on.

just like theirs wheelchair basketball their is wheelchair dating im sure you could google up something.

i hope things turn around in a great way for you

Dude, good luck with finding a mate. I know one is out there for you!

Someday u'll find that one that doesn't even see the wheelchair cause she's too mesmerized u. Just keep bein u an don't let the small minds get to u.

Evian is right, don't ever tell them about your money. Good luck on your search, you will find someone who will love you for just being YOU! Welcome to the site.

Eventually you will weed thru all the crap, and someone special will shine through.

Hey Mr Hazelnut..where have you been? lol

Have you considered trying to meet a girl that is in a wheelchair?

no, I just mentioned the $ to illustrate the point that I'll do anything to lose this wheelchair. Also I've tried dating girls in wheelchairs and trust me lol, it's just better if only one of us is disabled

Keep your head up dude... If the ladies are that shallow, you dont want them anyway.... The right gal will come....

lol. i'm picturing two people sitting there trying to figure out how to reach a jar of peanut butter. sorry.

i got a head injury from a pretty bad car wreck (i got hit hard while sitting at a light) and ended up dealing with some really difficult complications from the injury. i looked 100% normal but when i had to explain to a girl why i couldn't drive for several months (extremely hard on a car guy like me) and what i was dealing with, i felt that's all they saw in me then and that they'd see me as weak and imperfect. eventually i realized that they didn't pity me, they had genuine concern and they felt closer to me because i shared with them. also, many were shocked by how brutal my experiences had been and were impressed that i dealt with it as well as i did. i know it's not the exact same situation but i get what you're saying.

when i dated a few girls with similar situations, we laughed at ourselves because we couldn't go anywhere if both of us were under medical advisement not to drive. imo, shared problems just don't make the best foundations for a relationship.

I agree...

I just read your profile.. It's well written and strong.. I think that following what you said in your profile.. I really think it will work for you...

Most of us aren't in a wheelchair and we can't find love/the one to date either... I know it is hard but remember it's about meeting a quality person that will be good to you and love you, that is worth waiting for.. Be patient, it will happen...

Unfortunately Intrepid, this is your reality...but I don't think that being bitter is gonna score you any points... There are many women who are not superficial...I myself, have dated both a quad & a parapelegic...& the chair didn't hinder us at all...just taught us to be more "creative"... Lose the 'tude, Dude...trust me...you'll be better off without it...

And before you say that I haven't walked a mile in your moccasins...just a lil info...I was born with a congenital, degenerative bone disease...the chair is most likely in my future...

attitude has a lot to do with others not wanting to be around

a positive one is usually a good help

and be positive that a negative issue is the reason is not a positive attitude

You are a strong man. I can see that. The woman that looks pass all your amazing qualities and just looks at the chair is not worth your time anyways.

Keep your head up. You are doing a fine job hun. Any woman would be lucky.

My best Bro uses a wheelchair due to having a muscular disorder, so I have an insight as to where you're coming from. Although he is not confined to it, he can only walk about 200 feet before he needs it.

Dude, just stay strong. She's out there somewhere.

hey i wouldn't dismiss ya

I get the same reaction when women look at my face.