I went out tonight...friend of mine had a function so I went along. Of course there are a lot of people there. Many I don't know... I stand around aimlesslessly... amusing myself listening to folks attempt small talk.

One fellow, who is somewhat decent decent looking but his behavior is FINE/normal/almost sweet... he comes up and starts with the friendly making. I endure it. It feels like sympathy at first. I'm thinking I look pretty pitiful standing by myself waiting for my friend to come back as she's gone off with her work pals.

ANYWAY, he ends up hinting I'm his "type".... sure. Right. This is after he drops several thousand references to a religion I don't follow and have no interest in. I politely tell him that I'm really am not his type... that maybe he needs to meet a nice person at his church instead. He doesn't get it. Instead of feeling like I could chatter with this guy I start getting frustrated and slightly panicky.

Eventually I escaped this person... however is there a polite way to tell someone that religion is one of those things that this particular female finds unattractive? I doubt it. I just felt like the meanest B_tch.

It's just not for me.

I mean it's okay... just it's not for me.

I don't want to start a religious debate. I don't want to go into my own belief system or anything because I think that should be personal and always kept to yourself.

Anyway... now I'm still flustered. I still feel like I was mean. I really tried to be nice about it, but ..... UGH Is there a NICE way to say it? Cause I just kept repeating that he would be better off finding someone with a similiar belief and that I wasn't interested.

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I'll shut up now.

I sympathise with you, i myself am non-religious but i respect everyone elses beliefs, as politely as i can when it comes up i tell them i respect their beliefs but i have my own and if they ask i tell them thats it's a very personal decision and lets leave it at that and this is not the time or place, i try to be as polite as i can be but after they've had a chance to stop and don't i will point it out they are being rude and disrespectful. and depending on the situation if they still don't get a clue just walk away.

moments like that always make me evaluate myself. I want a meaningful connection with someone and here was an amusing fellow and all that and there I am thinking to myself, "kinda cute but religion? no way." Makes me feel all sorts of shallow. Maybe I should change my name to "to my exact standards only, please."