I HAVE THIS PROBLEM ME AND MY EX BROKE UP MAYBE 3 WEEKS AGO. WE HAVE A CHILD TOGETHER AND I STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM HOW DO I TELL HIM THAT I'M STILL IN LOVE AND LOVE HIM. DO I LOOK FOR SIGNS THEN TELL HIM, DO WANT FOR HIM TO TELL ME, DO I JUST TELL HIM, OR KEEP IT TO MYSELF AND MOVE ON?

It's only 3weeks. How does he feel about you?

WE HAVE BASICALLY THE SAME FRIENDS AND THEY TELL ME THAT HE SAYS HE MISSES ME BUT THAT DOESNT MEAN HE WANTS TO BE WITH ME. I DONT THINK ANY WAY

So don't lower yourself to go grovling over him. It's only three weeks. Let more time pass. You might NOT love him as much as ya think

I NEVER THOUGHT OF IT THAT WAY. ITS JUST THAT HES THE ONLY GUY I BEEN WITH SO, I GUESS YOU CAN SAY I'M SCARED ALITTLE AND I DONT WANT RAISE MY SON ON MY OWN SO....

I can understand that. He is the father of your child. But you not all grown up yet and there will be many men to come and go in your life. The first cut is the deepest they say. Try to think if you would want to be with him aside from having a child with him. That might be your answer. Good luck

I just read a great eye opening book called 'he's just not that into you'. Had a lot of great information that helped me to stop wishing/hoping and hanging around and to realize that I needed to move on with my own life because he wasn't sending signals that he was interested. Best wishes!

easy on the caps

it is what it is,

and there is nothing you can do to change that

I GUESS I JUST NEED TO MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE AND SAY WHATEVER. THANKS FOR ALL THE ADVICE!!!

your very pretty i don't even see why your trippin

I just don't know. I'm not a psychotherapist, clinical psychologist, nor a registered marriage councillor. I'm just a longhairbiker on a dating site.

One would never expect someone to have lost all emotions for someone they have been with, created a child with, and have loved and been loved in a matter of three weeks.

I would be highly suspicious of someone who could.

I feel full disclosure... it's so empowering to share how you feel... but with no agenda... no expectations of an outcome... it is the same as saying, I want a drink.... do I expect somethign from you, by saying that? No... it's a statement...

so is expressing how you feel...it doesn't obligate anyone to do anything other than to say thankyou, and if they feel it is a healthy space you are both in, may also share how they feel.

YOU ARE SO RIGHT I SHOULD PUT IT OUT THERE JUST TO GET IT OFF MY CHEST

(it's not really a big deal, however writing in caps lock, is seen as shouting, within these types of forums...lower case is so much gentler )

You will do what it is right for YOU...not anyone else... I dont like the word 'should'.... it's obligating.... what feels right, is what you do.

True Jess. Plus, you do get it off your chest and then the ball is in his court. Feelings just are. Might as well express them.

You're on a dating site. I think you've already made your decision.

So am I, and I am not looking to date, never was, and never will be... it's also a great place to share information, ideas, humour, everything.

The decision to join a dating site differs for people...I know about 45 of us joined for the forums and connections....some for the elusive one...most, so that we could keep rabbiting on in the forums together.