If you aren't talking to them, then what difference would it make to anyone? Just keep your thoughts to yourself and no one will ever know.

lalalalalalalalalalalalalalal............can't hear you!...lol

To communicate with someone and flirt with someone are not the same.... are you saying if you communicate with someone you have a "crush" on that makes it flirting?

I ain't sayin shyte

No I'm saying if you are communicating it's not like a celebrity crush. You don't talk to a celebrity.

What is acceptable in a relationship is entirely up to the couple. If you're ok with chatting while you are involved with someone, there's nothing wrong with it.

I just mind what I say, imagine how it would look if I was standing in the street saying the same things to someone. Would it be construed as flirting? If you're not flirting then it's a friendship not a crush.

Hahahah ok well I see this is a sore subject for some. I would personally never cross the line while in a relationship but I do have some favs on this site

I agree with all of that. Just trying to figure out what people can agree to as far as it being harmless.

I don't know if it's any consolation, but it looks like you're doing it right then, only looking for friends. Sorry about his loss.

Well, as long as you are harmless too

i think it's ok.it just means you have a backup plan in case the first relationship doesn't work



nothing wrong with that

Well yes because a celebrity you really have no hope of ever making face to face contact with and if you do, chances are it will not be intimate contact but more like a "red carpet" situation.

Anyone you meet on Mingle is fair game. There is no difference here between meeting someone on an electronic interface then meeting them on the street minus the computer screen when you get right down to it. The choice to meet in person or not is still yours to make

the disaster recovery plan
and so goes one of the reasons the first relationship would fail, planning for the failure rather than planning so that is doesn't.

it takes both people to make a relationship fail,so if the other person doesn't want to make it work,it doesn't matter how hard you try it's not going to work.so i think having a backup plan is a good idea

How do you think your new interest feels about your "back-up plan"?

well the first few gf's i tried it with wasn't too thrilled about it but you just have to keep trying

Well generally as a rule, women and probably men also dont want to feel as if the person they are with is only with them until something better comes along. Back up plan in most cases will be interpreted thus. It also would seem you are holding something back and are afraid to make that leap of faith and really engage yourself in the new relationship.

You are worried about failure so your solution is to always have a little sumthin on the back burner...

i hear what you are saying, and of course everyone wants a safety net. just not something, in even very bad situation relationships i have had, that i ever considered. i would never want to jump into something else right way, it only lends oneself to carry unresolved issues from the past into something new. and that...is not a good idea. and as zazanna said, i doubt a new interest would be comfortable being a "back-up plan". and if they didn't know they were, then you aren't being truthful to them.

well does one prostitute know that i use other prostitutes too?no...and they don't need to know



kinda the same thing