He just found out that he's the father of a baby.A woman that he had a one night stand with last year found out that her exboyfriend ain't the dad and he is.He took a paternity test.He is with another woman that he loves now though,and loves her very much.

How would you react if your boyfriend told you this?



P.S. The encounter would have taken place BEFORE he met you

People think where the F**K does this guy get these questions from?

But sometimes it really happens, just like this.

This happened to me about 9 years ago.

We broke up. End of story.

He made a sickening choice to have unprotected sex with someone else, and his consequence was losing me. I didn't bat an eyelash or shed a tear. I walked ....

I think I would stand back and wait to see how HE reacts....kids change everything.

I would literally freak the fudge out as I don't have a boyfriend never have and never will, cept for you mirror

If he wasn't with me when he had the one night stand, then it falls into the category of "what happened before me is none of my business". It would be between the two of them. If he was with me when he did it, the door is thataway.

then you were not in love. pretty simple.

I try

I've had many boyfriends say this to me

i'd say, see ya on jerry springer!!

Well hell! I posted before your edit: P.S. The encounter would have taken place BEFORE he met you

My story no longer applies. The ending would be the same. I don't date me with children.

I also wouldn't consider the issue any of my business. If it happened BEFORE he met me then who cares what I think?

But it gets even better.......

What if after the boyfriend establishes a father/son relationship, say about a yr, then it turns out that he is not the father????????

Now what?????

Who said anything about love?

I date without being in love.

I can be sad about breaking up with someone that I am not in love with ....

Even if I WAS in love, he cheated. He doesn't deserve my tears.

As I said in a follow up post, I don't date men with children. The guys I date know this and it wouldn't be a surprise to them if they had a 'surprise kid' and I broke up with them.

My story no longer applies because the question was: before we met, so his one-night stand is not my business.

I agree with Ladywolf... Although, I used to feel like Melody and don't blame her for her choices.. At my age now, it would be very rare that a man didn't have children but I've run across a few.. Problem is I do so if they don't it could be problematic... First and foremost I go with what I think of the person now... But I sure hate meddling exes... If he found out and it was before me then I'd see what happened... If he let it interfere with our lives I would let him know I had an issue with it and if it didn't change then I'd walk... And by intefere I mean the ex and their bs not the child.. I think most all children are easy to love so I don't have a problem there usually.. LOL

That takes it to another level entirely, and would depend on the guy, I think. Some men would continue the relationship with the child but terminate any support being paid, because they love the child. Others would walk away.

But there was a paternity test

This happened to a married friend of mine. She didn't walk(or make him walk), but last I knew he was working the graveyard shift at the local all-night supermarket to pay the child support he is now on the hook for.

Then he's going to be hurt and that's sad.. The thing is he may choose to walk away... Can you blame him? He may choose to stay... That would be a little weird considering the mother but kids deserve to be loved...

I would say,lets start doing visits,because if I loved you, I would want to get to know your child.....and we would start paying child support, because,it is hard enough already,for single parents.