Cheers!!!

I forgive you;gtfo

I wouldn't give them a reason to CHEAT!

never forgive never forget.that's my motto for everybody.

Got no use for forgiveness....

been cheated on....too many times...I simply shut off the emotions..and no longer acknowledge thier existance.

When I hear the inevitable..."I am so Sorry"...if I bother to reply at all...it is "Prove you are sorry by not cheating on the next guy who loves you"

never forgive

When I get alzheimers I will forget!!!

I think forgetting is different than forgiving. that, more than anything, is probably why most couples can't survive the cheated-on relationship - it's close to impossible to forget.

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if you never forgive, do you ever really get over them, or what they did to you? i think by not forgiving you empower them to still be a part of your life.

i've been cheated on and i accept part of that responsibility. i didn't give properly to the relationship and i believe that, in SOME cases, you reap what you sow. granted, there are people completely lacking in morals and values and will cheat regardless, but i don't think that was true in my case.

i'd rather learn from what i did, and didn't do, and not make the same mistakes next time around.

Forgiveness is for the forgiver, not the forgiven. Well, not just the forgiven. Living in hate is a miserable place to be.

that's the one thing i can't forgive.

My mom forgave my Dad's one affair that he had when they were young.
They've been married for 50 years now.

I think there is a difference between a person who has cheated, and a serial cheater.

My post was aimed at the serial cheater.

I DO believe that some couples can overcome a 1 off event of infidelity, and grow stronger. Occasionally, infidelity can be a sign of unhappiness, which can be overcome and learned from.

SO well said. and as Joe said forgiving is for me it is an effort to not harbor resentment. I feel better when I do forgive still forgiving is not saying please come back and do it again.

Please allow me to illustrate a point in this,

I used to date this girl who used to come up with a litany of reasons why she could not go out. We had pans one day to go out so after work I stopped at her house to pick her up. That was when I ran into another guy saying he was going out with her. He was trying to pick a fight with me until he grabbed me and I broke his ass off and took him to the ground. While I had him in an arm breaker hold (and I was going to dislocate his shoulder) I demanded he explain himself to me. What he told me saved him from me wrecking his life for good.

It turned out she came to him and she lied about dating me at all. She was on the phone while this was going on telling my room mate she was calling off our date. She seen the fight and called the police. When they arrived both of us were sitting on my car talking about the whole situation in detail. She would not come out until the police arrived and they spoke with us and finally left because there was no real reason for them to act other than to admonish us briefly for squabbling but it was clear to them we settled our differences without any real injury.

Both of us pinned her down demanding answers and oddly he blocked the door so she could not get away. The both of us really hammered on her and her ***** room mate tried to intervene and got tossed by me back into her house three times. Then the cops came back to see me bar arm the room mate and toss her back in her house while the other guy was telling our female Janus he was done with her. Her room mate went to jail coming out of the house with a substantial kitchen knife and tried to get a piece of me but the PR 24 the cop carried disarmed her nicely and I got the satisfaction of seeing her room mate get stuffed into the back seat of a police car.

Both Homie and me told her to never ever call either of us again and the man actually thanked me for sparing him the pain I would have otherwise inflicted on him. The girl told the cops she was dating the both of us and a female police officer rode her for half an hour verbally in front of the two of us and she then got hauled in for disturbing the peace because the cops had to come out twice because of her. After we got lectured by the police I was stunned when the sergeant actually thanked us for finding a non violent answer to our dilemma. That tainted me ever dating a Latina ever again and I have not since.

Three years ago before I ran into my last GF I was gong out with a girl who told me over the phone she was dating other guys and had no intention of stopping. Needless to say that was the last time I said good bye to her and she kept trying to call me after that.

DELETE MESSAGE got used quite a bit on my answering machine after that for a while. I had no interest in her at all after that.

Needless to say if I don't pay games while I date what makes anyone think I will tolerate that in my relationships?

I have seen the argument that "You had to do something to make her cheat." I have seen cases where there was a legitimacy to that argument but most of the time that is pure unfiltered bullsh*t.

Now if I am in a LTR and she thinks using sex as a reward to make me do what she wants or she cuts me off without allowing me a way of venting my needs it is over. O-V-E-R, OVER. I keep my games on my computer and on the table. People need to get over themselves and quit acting like a bunch of children with hurt feelings.


Don't hate the player, hate the game!

I have grown up on a farm, and know how to castrate most male animals. Really. I have no qualms about doing it to a guy who would cheat on me.

I tell 'em upfront, if ya want to cheat get out of the relationship, or I will castrate ya and then send ya on your merry way. I can honestly say, I haven't been cheated on.

I don't believe in forgiveness. I think it's a BS excuse to let people get away with things and not make them responsible for their problems. But that's my opinion, of course.

Let's see...the way I did it in my past life (when I was married) was to take it repeatedly for 12 years and keep forgiving.

I'm pretty sure that I understand the mechanics of opening the door now...and one of us would be walking through it!

Simply put, you don't- the offending party will go on to take part in the same activity in the future.

crime: infidelity
judgment: unforgiven

Except in the case of Rare's beard- he's a total playuh!

I can forgive though it would take quite a while but I would never forget. And for me the relationship would be over as my trust in the person would be demolished.