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Topic: Children-less Mothers...
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Sat 05/09/09 03:17 PM


What a thoughtful post. I too lost a baby through miscarriage so I know how you feel. I never had children after that. I think any woman (especially those who do not have children) who are "care givers" are Mothers. Whether it's other people's kids, the elderly or even pets -- anyone who gives care like a mom is a mom as far as I'm concerned.



(((Twitch))) :heart: Wonderfully stated!

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Sat 05/09/09 05:18 PM


What a thoughtful post. I too lost a baby through miscarriage so I know how you feel. I never had children after that. I think any woman (especially those who do not have children) who are "care givers" are Mothers. Whether it's other people's kids, the elderly or even pets -- anyone who gives care like a mom is a mom as far as I'm concerned.



Thanks Twitch for such a poignant post...I'm glad I'm not the only one! flowerforyou I often think about how badly I spoil my pets...I think my kids would've been monsters! laugh

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Sat 05/09/09 05:24 PM



What a thoughtful post. I too lost a baby through miscarriage so I know how you feel. I never had children after that. I think any woman (especially those who do not have children) who are "care givers" are Mothers. Whether it's other people's kids, the elderly or even pets -- anyone who gives care like a mom is a mom as far as I'm concerned.



Thanks Twitch for such a poignant post...I'm glad I'm not the only one! flowerforyou I often think about how badly I spoil my pets...I think my kids would've been monsters! laugh


I know how much you spoil me....I think your kids would be just right.....The kids you take care of now, will "never" forget there..."Aunt Peka"

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Sat 05/09/09 07:27 PM

I think Mom's Day (& Dad's Day, for that matter) is a great holiday. I think our parents should be honored every day...:heart: flowerforyou :heart:

But I often think of the "children-less Mothers"...the unsung heros who help to raise other people's children...or women who have lost children due to miscarriage. (I lost my son in-utero) brokenheart

I'm not saying that there should be a seperate holiday...but I do think these women should be recognized. Some of my warmest moments have been when an adult child that I helped to raise says "I remember that you were there when my Mom wasn't available"...etc...
I've also experienced the pain when a callous woman would say that I wasn't a "Real Woman" since I had never experienced actual childbirth...or I wouldn't know the pain or joy since I had no (living) children of my own...it happens more often than you think. I only bring this up to remind us all that EVERY woman has a story...please appreciate that fact. flowerforyou


Thank you for your words and bringing this to light.
Yes, there are some of us who have chosen not to have children for one reason or another...but there are those of us who have been there to raise step-children, neices and nephews and are still haning in there as a surrogate parent without recognition.

Shame on the person that told you that you are not a 'real woman' due to the lack of the childbirth experience. Chalk that comment up to total ignorance as she has never experienced any other situation.

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Sun 05/10/09 09:26 AM
Just bumping this up the wish a Happy Mom's day to all of us Children-less Mothers...it may be a thankless job...but you ladies ROCK!

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Sun 05/10/09 09:28 AM
Happy Mother's day Que! You are a good mama...I am too! Only my kids are in nose to tail fur jammies.....

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Sun 05/10/09 09:32 AM
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Sun 05/10/09 09:35 AM

Happy Mother's day Que! You are a good mama...I am too! Only my kids are in nose to tail fur jammies.....



Hehehehe! Thanks, Krupa! I always knew there was a reason I called you a mutha-f...uh...well, you know what I mean! I know you hate the nudges...but I'm sending you a hug anyway, Babe until we can do it in person...:heart:

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Sun 05/10/09 09:40 AM
It is coming quick...between the Texas Meat and the Rice Fest...we will get in some huggytude! Can't wait!!

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Sun 05/10/09 09:47 AM
Here's to mothers. No matter how they got the job.

drinker

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Sun 05/10/09 09:52 AM
(((Phuque))):heart: flowers


My baby girl, Buttercup asked me to send this along to you...







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Sun 05/10/09 09:57 AM
Giveing birth isn't what makes a mother. It's the being there, the giving, the sharing, the nurturing. Anyone can give birth to a child it takes a very special person to be a mother. As a birth mom to 2, a step mom to 2 more and a foster mom to 2 more I was a mother to all 6. Happy Mother's Day to all the "mothers" out there birth or otherwise~ It only takes labor of the heart to make you a MOTHER not labor of the body~flowerforyou

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Sun 05/10/09 10:48 AM

Giveing birth isn't what makes a mother. It's the being there, the giving, the sharing, the nurturing. Anyone can give birth to a child it takes a very special person to be a mother. As a birth mom to 2, a step mom to 2 more and a foster mom to 2 more I was a mother to all 6. Happy Mother's Day to all the "mothers" out there birth or otherwise~ It only takes labor of the heart to make you a MOTHER not labor of the body~flowerforyou


Well spoken Fiesty (muah)

My womb donor split when I was six months old...heard from her once when I was 14...once when I was 28....

She ain't my mother.

My Mom is the woman who was there for me even when I was an angry teen...who put up with all my crap...blood and biology is completely irellevant..

I love my Mom sooooooo much....


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Sun 05/10/09 11:02 AM
GREAT pic of you & your Mom, Krupa! :heart:

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Sun 05/10/09 11:07 AM
Thanks doll....that was right after Grandma's funeral...

She got the paitence of a saint...a heart of pure gold...the intellect of a head nurse...and loses all self control when she goes shopping...I love that woman.

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