My doctor told me to eliminate the stress in my life; so I divorced my husband. It really worked. I'm stress free.


If you want to eliminate all of your faults, get a divorce. I did, and I suddenly realized that I am perfect.

I have been divorced 16 years as of April 17th. So I think I've worn that stress reliever out, lol.

I have never been married so I never could get a divorce

I'm in that process now and yes, you are right

Samething is Mirror.. never been married.

Hmm but I have a different stress it's called life and I can't divorce life or I would.

Divorce the attitude that allows stress....and stressful situations to take hold.

I have had girlfriends but I never wanted to get married because I figured it would save me some money from having to pay for a divorce. I figured that all these other people end up getting divorced ,so the odds were that it would happen to me too if I got married, so I never did. I actually think it was a wise move not to ever get married,although I had some girlfriends that would have made a good wife probably. I figure now that I may be willing to give it a try once. Maybe if I make it to my 40s and I am still a bachelor,and/or I meet someone and we are together for 5 or more years.

If that woman holds out for that long.. you must be doing something right vs all other guys lol, I serious never heard of any body not getting married after being together for more then a few months and or years etc, but who knows you could be the first along with many others out there that do not show there face. lol.

That does not always work. I tried that. Nope... it was my relationship. I don't like trying (and failing) to live up to other people's expectations.

I never got married in the first place.


A lot of friends say I am the smart one...


I wonder why???

JB.....you said it all...right there...the attitude of having to live up to, an failing, SOMEONE elses's expectations...

By divorcing that attitude, immediately the stressors are gone..

Apparently you have never been married to a man with an attitude. You can't divorce his attitude when it is constantly in your face. You have to divorce HIM.

So I divorce both him and his attitude. My attitude remains the same. I'm not taking any abuse.

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Oh I have....although you and I are different people... and that is what worked for you...

For me.... to not 'buy into' his attitude any longer, reduced MY stress levels, to the point I could objectively decide to end the marriage...

I had already 'divorced' my attitudes and mindsets, and reactiveness to him, and his attitudes, long before I left the marriage.

It worked for you, and it worked for me...

It still works for me, I divorce the attitudes that I create, that allows stress..

An abusive mate can suck the life and spirit completely out of you and it is something you can't ignore or solve by pretending it is not there. It would be like trying to ignore a bunch of leeches all over your body sucking the blood out of you.

No amount of attitude adjustment can solve that. You have to get rid of the damn leeches.

That is good, at least you still left the marriage. I did not have the strength to do anything but get the out of the situation. I was under the impression your suggestion was that all a person has to do to save a marriage is to adjust the attitude.

Not the case. I ended the marriage to save myself.

i live in a camptrailer and have never maried so i have little stress. few bills an few issues.

I am a very (extremely) easy going person, and easy to get along with. I like a peaceful yet interesting life of calm. I read books, I work on the computer, I do my art.

When that is being constantly disrupted by abuse and drama from an unbalanced insecure person living in the same house with me I experience stress. So the only solution was to eliminate the stress.

It was not an attitude really. It was a mental and sometimes physical assault.

That deserves a KERPOW!

And a WHAM!

Insecurity sucks! Some people cannot face stress with grace. Then they single out the easiest target to inflict on that usually winds up being loved ones first. Then again if you really love someone you should not be out to make them miserable. unfortunately many marriages don't last in part because one partner or the other or both are choads in disguise. A guy can be a total hunk with diamond cut abs and have nothing between the ears except Seinfeld and how to gratify himself. I laugh at the Hollywood bad boys. Most of them would get cooked in some of the hoods I got friends in. (and this is where I pass props to my homies and bros on the other side of the hood.) Usually the bad boys are the ones who are at the height of insecurity. Other people just like abuse!

Still, sometimes the best stress relief is permanently getting away from some one. Why stay married to someone who makes you miserable? Do it for the children? (In some circumstances and not this one granted!) Well why not pass on another generation of dysfunctional people!

The fact is that marriage is a lot more than a piece of paper and some pretty words. Like a car it needs maintenance and sometimes that means personal maintenance but if your husband keeps driving it into trees and hitting cars on the side of the road with it he gets his license revoked and his keys taken away. in a marriage there are two people maintaining it. When one stops maintaining it it is over. It is not unfounded that some people can sort out their differences and rehabilitate a relationship but those are few and far between. You kill someone you can't bring them back to life. Same thing with a relationship.

Uh, Oh! I am going on and on and on and on and on and on....



I better quit while I am ahead!