It seems that the more I know about what I want, the more elusive it becomes. Isn't discovering what you want supposed to make it easier to find? I don't get it.

It was more helpful for me to figure out who and what I was all about first. After that was when I figured out what I wanted.

hummmmmmm,.interesting,.I would have thought so too,..are we talking life choices or something else ?

I don't think any of us will find the EXACT one we want

Nobodys perfect

Even our exact person will have flaws

Both, in almost every aspect of life it seems.

knowing more about what you want can make it more defined which can make it harder to find.

life is the grandest illusion of all be seeing you

It is indeed.

It depends on what you want, and why....


examples......

If you want a financially secure person, is it because you aren't?

If you want a strong minded, confident person, is it because you aren't?

If you want a totally into you, completely besotted, totally infatuated with you person, is because you are insecure? From past 'hurts' ?


You really have to look at why you want particular qualities in a person...and is it because you are lacking in those qualities, or because they would MATCH your qualities...


I have my mirror, in my partner...he is the reverse image of me... we share so many same type qualities, and trust me, they are mostly the ones to cause tensions, and friction...

We balance each other, his strengths are not mine....my strengths are not his....but it is an equal relationship...we have learnt to respect the differences...and trust the strengths..

interesting... good point

I noticed that, too. I never really saw it as a problem until I realized one day that what I want doesn't exist.