my long time friend, just found out her "ex" is getting married to his "ex".
Now... some history on this story...
He used to live with my friend but moved out and back into his ex's house "because of the children" The whole time telling my friend that he still loves her, still plans on marrying her,he wants to have children with her, he doesn't like his ex and he SURELY ISN'T SLEEPING WITH HER. IT's ONLY so he can be with his kids cuz she's playing control games.
She bought it too. Hook line and sinker. I told her over and over and over that he's LYING!! That's he's stringing you both along. God only knows what he's been telling the 'ex'.
But noooooo. She still loved him. She still was stuck neck deep in denial. And now, she's pregnant cuz she never stopped having sex with him.
And my friend thinking this whole time this is what he wanted, was amazed and upset when she told him and he didn't react so happiliy. Now the truth has come out that he's really getting married to the other chick. The truth had to come out that he was still seeing her because now she's gonna have his baby.
And the result?? Ohhhhh you would think that they would both leave his dumb pathetic azz. But no. The now fiance keeps calling my friend to tell her to leave them alone cuz they're in love and getting married. Blah blah blah.
At least for now, my friend has chosen to not see him anymore. IDK how long that will last but at least she's out of denial.
I mean seriously, I've done some stupid things for love, but does it really have to make you a total moron??
I'm so angry with her for still seeing him and getting pregnant by him. How could she have not seen the truth before? I want to be happy for her having a baby but I'm just not.
He has 4 kids already!!! by 2 different women. OOOOHHH and he doesn't have a job cuz he "hurt his back at work" a few years ago so he gets diability.

Dumb move, yes but she would be better off without him and raising the baby alone..long road ahead ..wishing her the best..

Dumb move, yes but she would be better off without him and raising the baby alone..long road ahead ..wishing her the best..

Is that for being such a diabolical person?! lol!

Sorry, sounds like a real A hole, but ur friend needs to wise up.

ohh yea... he doesn't have a license or a car either.

she's been my friend since we were in the 3rd grade. I never thought would be this stupid I just can't believe after all this the "fiance" is still planning on marrying him.

Well hopefully he can keep his pants up long enough to get married and not hurt his soon to be wife, other wise this could be so much worse then what it already has gotten to be.

I mean hopefully he's paying for all of the kids he already has, plus one of it's way.

Makes me wondering why some women can't see the light of day with these types of losers.

the dude is a winner lol .....dump him

Everyone does really stupid things sometimes! All I can say is she is going to have a baby now and that can't be changed. What you need to do is support her and not keep talking about the mistakes she has made. I am sure that in the years ahead, she will look back and wonder where her head was. Love is blind and sometimes we believe what we want to believe!!!
I hope your friend has a happy baby and a great life

Oh I will always continue to support annd her as my friend. I will love that baby as much as I do the other one she has. They are my family.
I just hate to see children being brought into bad relationships like this.
He's such a piece of crap. I can't even stand being in the same room as him. But... we'll deal with it in time.

As we all know men tend to think with their "other head". And apparently that's all this guy has done. 4 kids by 2 different women on disability doesn't have a license or a car... MY GOD how many red flags does she need? I have run into women who are just like this guy. 3 Kids all different fathers , on disability living off child support ( if she could collect it). Sure you can feel bad for the kids but you have to draw the line somewhere.. The point is all you can do is offer your support to your friend. And if she continues to see this guy? Tell her in no uncertain terms choose wisely of who you want . As for the child she now will carry and someday bear? She has a tough decision to make.. She will not see a dime in child support from this guy. They can not touch disability monies.. And if on disbility he can't or won't work. He wins. shame to say. I am embarrassed by guys like him. Castration isn't good enough for these types of guys.

The ol' saying "you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink" applies here- chances are that they woulda been doing whatever it was that they were wanting to do no matter what. Love is stupid like that- people will totally ignore common sense and logic for the sake of some imagined emotional bond between two people.

Just sit back and snicker at the folly that will be their lives together.

You'll lose that friend trying to give advice, talk her out of seeing him, or even proving him a cheating liar.

Best just to let people make their own mistakes and live with them.

Thinks that make ya go hmmmm.

My brother was on disablity and his son got social security until he was 18. If he is on fact receiving benefits for a disability the child will be eligible for social security benefits/a check every month.

this is a fact. a child of someone on disability is entitled to benefits also. BUT they have to apply for it . I don't see or should I say believe this will be the case for jills friend. She can't make a court take away any of that money for child support . All they can do is direct him to make sure he applies for his children and the mother ( jills friend) will need to ensure of it getting done. all I can say is good luck with that one. I don't wish to be a nay sayer or anything else. But men like him always seem to get away with this crap. Seen it time and time again. but there is always exceptions to the rule. As with your brother which I will assume he is a decent man and wanted to take care of his family. But in this instance we are talking a different "caliber of man".

I think he's perfectly capable of holding a job. He just chooses not to.
He actually has custody of 2 of the kids and the other 2 are with the woman he is with now and intending to marry. So all 4 live with him. She works 2 full time jobs to pay for everything.

I feel sorry for your friend. And HIS DUMB BUTT needs a slap upside the back of his head!!!

people dont get disability just because they want it or ask for it, it is a drawn out pain in the ass endevour

Sometimes we just cannot see past what we want. She will learn. Lessons in life come in every different form.

As for the disability, I worked for human services and after the revamp they did of social security back in the late 80s or early 90s, people have to really have issues to get social security. The only way around it would be to have a doctor in your pocket who knows how to work the system and would have a reason to do it for you.