then I still say flat out ask her on a date. I would have more respect for a guy that was upfront and honest.

If the answer is "No", the friendship would be affected, for sure.

I think it all depends on how you ask.

Doesn't have to be. I've had friends of mine ask me out on a date and sometimes I've said no. We remained friends. It was never weird. What's weird is it dragging on with him staring at me all suggestivly. Just get it out in the air and find out and if the feeling is mutual or not. One of my friends went out on one actual date with one of her long time friends. The date went no where as there were no sparks. They are still good friends to this day and that was 5 years ago. You have to approach it like you're really an adult

the best advice i received was "take a break from her. don't let her see or hear from you for a long time (6 months). when you do finally see her again, let her see you with an attractive woman. she'll start to think about what she's been missing."


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oh yes, this can work. If she is jealous, it could be love

Ah Drew... bad advice, sorry.

That could be the one, and what then... she moves on, gets married, has kids and then suddenly you bump into her again 15 yrs later... only her Husband is an Amateur MMA and weighs 220. You talk, Hubby gets drunk, you laugh, hubby gets drunker and more jealous, she gets up to goto the bathroom... Raging bull confronts me while the rest of "My Boys" are mac'n on girls on the dance floor... soon after the stars clear your looking into the flashlight of an EMT wondering why you have two broken ribs and your old girlfriend's Hubby is in the cop car....

it doesn't have to be a girlfriend and she doesn't need to be introduced as such. just bringing an attractive female with you shows that you have high value and that other attractive women recognize this. it will up your stature in her mind and spark a bit of competition in her as well.
women like men who are liked by women.


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Or... she coulda not been interested in you in the first place and you wasted 6 months on your plan and not seeing her. You could lose a friendship that way. If one of my friends avoided me for 6 months, I'd be kinda pissed.

right...*cough cough*

if in 6 months she moves on, gets married and has kids, something was already going on on the down low.

seriously though, if she moves on quickly, she wasn't that interested. i'm not going to wait and wait and wait for some girl to realize how great i am. (jill, had to put humble on hold again)
there is no "the right one for me" in this life. there is "a right one for me" but i don't believe in destined to be together crap.


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Drew- That's good tho. If you're to humble all the time we'll start to think you don't even like yourself

I've gotten to a point in my life where I realize I've spent to much time waiting for things to happen for me. I have to go make them happen. I don't want to waste all kinds of time wondering and hoping someone likes me when I could just ask him.
And in Drews scenario- if she moved on in the 6 months you were away, it doesn't mean she didn't like you anyway. It could mean she moved on because she felt you weren't interested so why should she wait?

ok..the best way is to express and do it it in a nice way. But, I still believe,there are chances of friendship getting affected. I know,some of you may think the other way but indivual experiences cant be generalised. Either way can happen.

and if you do nothing about it, you get nothing in return.

Plant a HUGE kiss on her, and see what happens.

This is true too... and I was being rather specific, plus there is more to that story... but not now

I would think you would be able to tell if there are any real sparks between you and a friend you are romantically interested in.

I once had a male "friend" who walked up to me, put his arm around my waist, pulled me against him and put the other hand on the crook of my neck, tangling his fingers in my hair as he placed his mouth on mine and laid a kiss on me.

We dated for awhile. I had never thought about him as bf material - but I am glad he did it.

you have 3 choices

action

reaction

inaction

the last one is currently getting you nowhere. the second one could take forever meanwhile leaving you in the friend zone and possibly missing out on someone great elsewhere.
that only leaves choice number one. you have to do something even if it's wrong.

and i know that this is all just hypothetical.



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