Dude...that is tragic....

not that you don't have family..... (I had two relatives survive the holocaust..one from Buchenwald..one from Auschwitz)...

my relatives....is an almost non existant number...my family is the people who I chose to make family...

If you got no one close enough to you to love enough to call family..that is your doing bro.

I would say deff my dog, she knows all my deep dark secrets. And if she ever tries to sell em like Duke from Bush's beans, I'm gonna run her over with my truck.

my best friends are my daughter, brother, and sister.

i'm very close with my family...other than a select few. we're very tight. while i have had some amazing friendships that i wouldn't want to give up for the world...my family is still iight-years closer.

Uh, no. It's a LOT more complicated than that. I would appreciate your not jumping to conclusions on things you know absolutely nothing about.

Convienient...

okay bro...

Again, jumping to a conclusion. "Convenient" in what way?

I don't know what your point is here, but I'm not going to make unwarranted assumptions and snide remarks to you about it. Please have the common courtesy to respond in kind.

Forgot to add that I was sorry to hear about Grandma... ...I envy the "tightness" of your family...

Thanks Phuq....it was a really nice rememberance of a good woman who was not blood but, I loved like family...(note Lex...family don't have to be blood my good man...they just have to be loved....if that is something that crosses your boundries...then I really do feel bad for you man)

Not trying to be a d*ck here Lex...just trying to understand why a grown @ssed intellectual such as yourself has no one to consider family...I personally would have thought you could claim a few dozen people just here who loved you.

But, I do admit...I do indeed know a few who refuse love or acceptance...(Not saying "YOU"..though the patterns are similar)

Both. I have family and freinds that I'm very close to.

Great! Are any of them hot? Do they like long haired...oh crap...you probably got that angle covered!!!!

I'm not quite sure how to answer that, other than to say I've either had really bad luck or made really really bad decisions in my life insofar as who I wanted (or thought I wanted) to be close to. I suspect it was some of both; probably more the latter than the former.

When I had actual family (in the biological sense), it was mostly unpleasant and destructive. I suppose I don't look for "family" in the sense that most people do, because I have never understood it to be anything but negative.

So, I suppose the term/concept of "family" carries some unpalatable connotations for me. If I ever thought of someone in terms of being "family," it would be someone I wanted nothing to do with.



I tend to be a bit skeptical of people now -- moreso than in the past; but it's true, there are people on this site who strike me as being better friends than most I've had in real life. I just don't know how much of that is perception + distance creating an illusion vs. how much of that is a legitimate reality. In all likelihood, I will never know.

And I'm OK with that. Not saying it's my preference or my ideal scenario; but that's how it is. Maybe it will change at some point, but I'm not about to rush into anything.

Hard to say.

My friends are the ones I can more closely relate to and the ones who will hopefully still be around after my family is gone. But they do come and go, and when I'm in trouble, usually go. I have very few that I actually hold near and dear in my heart.

But my family members are the ones who have stuck by me through thick and thin and really helped me out when I needed it, even if I don't deserve it. So with the exception of one or two of my friends, my family are the only ones I love with all my mind, heart and soul. And those one or two friends are more like family to me.

So I guess after typing this, I gotta say family. Most everybody else is kinda sorta disposable and easily replaceable.

Lex...dude...this is my take


F**k biological...my egg donor split when I was 6 months old...
Fair weather friends come and go..
But, those who you know will stick with you when the sh*t hit's the fan...

that is my family.

No offense...I have read far too much of your deep intellectually straight up real life stuff to let you get away without admitting that there is at least one person out there that you love like a brother..or a sister..or a father..or a mother...or a second cousin that you wanna have sex with but, you can't cause you feel to close.

Dude, nothing I have said tonight was meant to sound snide or condescending....

but, you gotta get over the past that was..and you gotta get over the past that was not...

when you can do that...go find a couple of rejects to love enough to love like a brother or a sister..a mother or a father...(This is America so the pre-requisites are NOT very stringent)

Just my take on it bro....what could it possibly harm to try it my way for a day?

Damn dude...that was quite well stated...!!!!!!

I'm closest to blood relatives that are friends. Being related by itself just means you have to be civil(if that). Friends get a close second to the few family members I think of as friends too. Otherwise friends win.

I am of the frame of mind that just because someone shares your blood...does not necessarily preclude the fact that they are "family"... If blood is toxic to me, I have absolutely no problem in removing that toxcicity from my life... However, I am very carefull in choosing the friends who I call "family"...for they are the ones I'm willing to shed "blood" for...

My friends are family. My family is family.


But, my sister and I are the black sheep of both sides of our families.


Wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy fckn kewl.

I would do you and your sister...heheheheheheeeewwww...(Thought that would be a great joke but, honestly...I would just do you...now call me Daddy and this won't be off topic!)

*snicker* I'm sure she'd be thrilled...Daddy...

Thank ya kindly