I dont see any issue with asking someone how many partners they have had. if we are going to consider being intimate with someone we should know.

There should never be secrets, or things "in the past". The past has ways of creeping into our future, and if a woman wants to know, she should be given an honest answer (same if a man wants to know)

IMO

i've been asked many times when i was a jazz dancer, and i moonlighted as an exotic dancer in fla, many years ago. i didn't take it to heart ever, for the answer was never that high, and when i was moonlighting, i was always dating, and i'm faithful. missed out on some racy stuff, i'm sure, but with aids just coming into play, i consider myself very fortunate to not have as many experiences as i could have.


i still get asked every time, but i think with the diseases out there, i don't blame them. you sleep with every person they slept with, disease wise.....just a thought. it's been nine years now though, since i've touched a woman in that way.

Wow - I have never asked that question of any man I have been intimate with. I have only had 1 ask me since I have been old enough to date.

I never asked a man that

I could care less

why? Did they see coming out of a clinic or something?

I don't expect an exact number, but I know there are some people, (both genders), who have slept with what I consider excess numbers of others. Frankly, if they've been promiscuous, I doubt I'd feel special with them or think they placed any value on intimacy within a relationship.

A guy who used to be in porn movies wanted me to date him. Not only would I not sleep with a prostitute, but even if I could get okay with him being a prostitute, I can't imagine feeling special in bed at all. What AND WHO hasn't he "done"?

And of course, I got creeped out by one man who made a LIST WITH NAMES of everyone he'd ever slept with since he was 16 years old and was told when it was our time I would be #46!!! Ticket please!!! (And, no, not in case of sexually transmitted disease). By the way, I DIDN'T ASK. He was excited to tell me.

I've never asked a man that question.

I do ask them how many times they've been married though.

Could be a Michigan thing, ya know. But I haven't been back in circulation long enough for any to ask.

Why do SOME ladies ask.........?

Start with that, and I wont have to rip your head off.


As to your question...ask the bloody woman why she wants to know, when she asks you.

Do I look like a survey participant?

Every human is diverse, every single person has their own unique history, that they lug around with them...

there is no one answer...ask the woman, who asks you, why.




( I am trying to behave, but sitting on one's hands and trying to type is difficult)

i want to know, but not in the context you're thinking of. for me, it's more about learning who he is. when we pass by someone, and he says, "we used to date. let me tell you about the time we went to the bar and some guy ended up..."

it's the story of his life. i also want to know travels...and experiences...good memories and bad. previous partners figures into all that.

and yes, it provides me with an inner chuckle every time i see his ex who *fill in the blank*.

as i'm not a jealous person, it's just story-telling to me. um, and maybe a reason to ask for a nice series of tests.

I've only asked my ex-husband, when we were dating, and that's because I was a virgin and he wasn't. So I was curious.

Now.. I've been told how many, but I haven't asked anyone.

Two or three times maybe. Not like it was an everyday thing....

i don't see anything wrong with asking a man anything at all. when i'm with a man i'm interested in getting to know him, and that's part of it. i don't understand the concept of questions being off limits in romantic relationships... he however may feel free not to answer or answer at a later date but i still speak (or ask) my mind. mayhaps this is a cultural difference or something...

part of it is because i consider it my business to know his sexual history if i intend to have sex with him at some point. being a "man whore" as you call it is unattractive to me.

as far as the importance of the numbers...
i prefer boyfriends who have a similar level of sexual experience as myself.

Honestly I don't ask but have had plenty of guys ask me... I figure if I'm not interested in sharing that information than neither are they.

Have you something to hide?

And what is this loser bit? I haven't been with a whole lot of girls. Definitely less than 10. Am I a loser because of it?

lol he had more the 18 roll out homie cuz he is used up yikesssssssssssssssssssssssssss

I've never asked a man that

Well that's good pats. I'm glad that doesn't come up in regular conversation with you.

I've never asked a guy that. I consider it his business. I've been asked and I just don't see where it's relivant. Past is past.

I agree... I really don't want to know how many people you have slept with.. That could probably even lead to arguments I could imagine...

I do however would want to know if you have been married before though..