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Topic: Why can't most women show any....
kingme242 Joined Sat 01/31/09 Posts: 73	Sun 04/05/09 04:58 PM
Guys, who is complaining. A simple question. I and several friends including several women had this discussion. I can say it was a little more mature than this. So everyones opinion is that a woman must be chased by a man. There is no reason for a woman to pursue a man.

Kindred2Wicked Joined Mon 03/02/09 Posts: 1331	Sun 04/05/09 04:59 PM
Why play games at all? That's what I don't understand. Why not just be open and say 'Hey, I'd like to get to know you better' and be done with it? Women crack on men all the time for being players and making generalities, but don't women do the same thing? Why do you want to be pursued? If you're interested, SAY SO, same thing for if you're not.

kingme242 Joined Sat 01/31/09 Posts: 73	Sun 04/05/09 05:01 PM
I agree, but I just find it very closed minded to say that a man must pursue a woman. So women will just sit idly by when they are interested in a man?

Kindred2Wicked Joined Mon 03/02/09 Posts: 1331	Sun 04/05/09 05:03 PM
Not me LOL It's a fine line between being pushy and looking uninterested. I know my first time out I wondered how to show I was interested without him thinking I'm like stalker crazy...I hadn't dated in 8 years. Maybe there should be a class lol

challengingmind Joined Mon 01/21/08 Posts: 563	Sun 04/05/09 05:08 PM
1) make eye contact 2)walk over 3) say hi 4)ask them something general to get the conversation going. 5) go with the flow 6) very impressive if you can do it without alcohol in your system 7)have fun

Kindred2Wicked Joined Mon 03/02/09 Posts: 1331	Sun 04/05/09 05:11 PM
1) make eye contact 2)walk over 3) say hi 4)ask them something general to get the conversation going. 5) go with the flow 6) very impressive if you can do it without alcohol in your system 7)have fun Ok, got that part...what about after that first date? How do you (beyond the obvious I had a good time phone call) do you show interest???

MelodyGirl Joined Sun 01/25/09 Posts: 9452	Sun 04/05/09 05:14 PM
If she wants you, she will have initiative; otherwise, she is not interested. If she wants you but doesn't make a move then she is playing games -- move on. The advice is converse. I don't see the problem here.

kingme242 Joined Sat 01/31/09 Posts: 73	Sun 04/05/09 06:02 PM
Kindred and Challenge, thanks for your opinions. They were great.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 04/05/09 06:12 PM
Guys, who is complaining. A simple question. I and several friends including several women had this discussion. I can say it was a little more mature than this. So everyones opinion is that a woman must be chased by a man. There is no reason for a woman to pursue a man. If you're assuming that everyone's opinion is that a women must be chased by a man, you didn't read all the responses.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 04/05/09 06:15 PM
If she wants you, she will have initiative; otherwise, she is not interested. If she wants you but doesn't make a move then she is playing games -- move on. The advice is converse. I don't see the problem here. He seems to only be reading the responses that say the women want to be pursued.

MelodyGirl Joined Sun 01/25/09 Posts: 9452	Sun 04/05/09 06:17 PM
If she wants you, she will have initiative; otherwise, she is not interested. If she wants you but doesn't make a move then she is playing games -- move on. The advice is converse. I don't see the problem here. He seems to only be reading the responses that say the women want to be pursued. Thanks, Emily. I finally figured that one out ....

kingme242 Joined Sat 01/31/09 Posts: 73	Sun 04/05/09 06:56 PM
Seems to me people jump to assumptions. I am one who believes a woman can do anything a man can do, including courting someone. Again, its 2009.

FiercelyIndependent Joined Mon 03/30/09 Posts: 1	Sun 04/05/09 07:00 PM
Perhaps you should re-explore your approach to meeting women. You want to meet independent thinking girls at a bar? Wrong answer....they are out to get laid at bars. On Mingle, you have to have a stright forward approach and ask well thought questions to get respectable answers. Where would you suggest he meet independent-thinking women?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 04/05/09 07:02 PM Edited by singmesweet on Sun 04/05/09 07:04 PM
I was just going by what you said above: Guys, who is complaining. A simple question. I and several friends including several women had this discussion. I can say it was a little more mature than this. So everyones opinion is that a woman must be chased by a man. There is no reason for a woman to pursue a man. Not everyone agreed with that.

Mr_Music Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 10677	Sun 04/05/09 07:29 PM
This thread is a perfect candidate for The Whiny "WHY???" Thread. http://mingle2.com/topic/show/215894

Phuque2 Joined Thu 11/20/08 Posts: 4927	Sun 04/05/09 07:33 PM Edited by Phuque2 on Sun 04/05/09 07:36 PM
This thread is a perfect candidate for The Whiny "WHY???" Thread. http://mingle2.com/topic/show/215894 This is a true Whiny Why thread...... I love how when a hoop is put out in front of "sheeple" they jump right through it, and then keep comming back for more, because they just can't STFU...5-4-3-2-1

kingme242 Joined Sat 01/31/09 Posts: 73	Sun 04/05/09 08:01 PM Edited by kingme242 on Sun 04/05/09 08:02 PM
I just find it amusing that topics questioning women are dealt one way and topics dealing with men another. It was fun. Oh and I don't whine. It was a question. Lets not stupe to name calling, didn't like in the army and I won't take it here either.

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Sun 04/05/09 08:04 PM
I just find it amusing that topics questioning women are dealt one way and topics dealing with men another. It was fun. Oh and I don't whine. It was a question. Lets not stupe to name calling, didn't like in the army and I won't take it here either. Hahahaahahahaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!! OMFG!!!!!!!!!!!! Are you for real?????? Haahahahahahaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!! you didn't like name calling in the army? bet the answer you got there, is the same you may get here.... tough! get over it! LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can this be made thread of the week? Please?

kingme242 Joined Sat 01/31/09 Posts: 73	Sun 04/05/09 08:33 PM
No buddy, I did very well in the Army and the matter of fact is that I never allowed soldiers under me to stupe to name calling each other. Its teamwork in the Army. I would have never survived Afghanistan or Iraq if we all called each other names. I am now a reservist. Join the Army and serve your country, do combat duty and then I will take you seriously. Now this thread has gone over board, but again name calling stupid and childish. Am I pissed, yes I am. An adult wants to stupe to name calling. Whats next, playground fight? Amusing very amusing!

MelodyGirl Joined Sun 01/25/09 Posts: 9452	Sun 04/05/09 08:36 PM Edited by MelodyGirl on Sun 04/05/09 08:38 PM
No buddy, I did very well in the Army and the matter of fact is that I never allowed soldiers under me to stupe to name calling each other. Its teamwork in the Army. I would have never survived Afghanistan or Iraq if we all called each other names. I am now a reservist. Join the Army and serve your country, do combat duty and then I will take you seriously. Now this thread has gone over board, but again name calling stupid and childish. Am I pissed, yes I am. An adult wants to stupe to name calling. Whats next, playground fight? Amusing very amusing! You called a girl "buddy"? If Lee aka Jess642 wasn't such a lady -- she might STOOP to a lower level and kick your booty! Relax! Everyone is cool here. If you post and ask for opinions, you have to be prepared for the replies -- all of them -- whether you like them or not. Have a good night!