How you recover and move on after a relationship betrayal?

havent been in one for 6 or so years


but the last one.


I just went out with life,aint no reason to stick around whining about it.

voodoo!!!

sure you do vodoo

Its tough at first but eventually the hurt begins to fade until it is only a memory

take time to heal don't assume everyone is like that renew your faith that forever love is possible

Cry, give everything he ever gave me back to him, cry somemore. Do alot of self help stuff, like following the grieving process and positive things for myself.

Oh and give myself lots of time to recover before dating again because rebound relatinships only make the pain worse.

First thing then eat alot of chocolate ice cream an brownies, then get my fat a$$ up outta the bed an get on with life.

I was hurt, (listened to lots of sad music/friends/comfort ate etc) but i convinced myself it was an opportunity to get away from someone who didnt deserve me.

first move to gym.

move on
get on with your life
don't dwell on the past

I look at it this way...

This person was just blocking the way for the person your meant to be with

Enjoy life, for tomorrow is promised to no one

So much to consider here... first, did the relationship end or are you trying to work it out? Undecided yet?

I once had a relationship end which was very difficult for me at first, all the questions running through my head, all the self blaming, etc... then I read an item and I'm not sure where I got it... but it started out;

"I'll never intentionally hurt you,"

and it goes on a few stanzas about how to treat a person unconditionally... or at least that was my translation of it... (wish I were at my home computer, it would be much easier for I have it saved there)... and at the end it says something like;

"It doesn't matter who you are with,
what you do, or where you are...
My job is to love you...
and that's that."

that reading helped me to really understand unconditional love in it's basic simplicity and helped me to move on and just pray for her happiness always... after all, it was her happiness I wanted all along, and if that meant she needed to find it without me then so be it. She is happy and I am glad for her. After a while of being apart and I was able to look back on our relationship through non attached eyes, I realized that the "meant to be" relationship was never meant to be permanent afterall... and I was able to thank God for the time and happiness we did share together.

If you are trying to work out the relationship instead of giving it away, I wish you the best and hope you both find unconditional love... and if it's too late and the relationship has ended I hope you find unconditional love.

That of course is a given. Nuthin like runnin into them months later an lookin even hotter than u did when u were with em.

I first analyze it to find what I missed. I eat a lot of ice cream. I know I am turning the bend when I can find the lesson to be learned from it. I know I am healed when I can laugh at it with out feeling like I am dying inside.

Is this a question of how to handle it? what you personally do? I figure if she cheats on me then the grass is greener for her elsewhere....say so long goodbye! and yeah feel bad about it depending on how much you loved them. But life has many things to offer including someone else that will be there at all times.. That's why I still look today.

Read the dalai lama ...His writings helped me

That would depend on the type of betrayal and how often it had occurred. Breaking one's word to another is entirely different than having an affair. If there is a pattern...then the relationship is over. Would grieve for what might have been...get angry...find a positive way to vent all the emotions...then move on. Life isn't in the past it is in the present and future. The past can't be changed. The present and future can.

it's weird.... in a way.... I read these forums over and over... and think to myself why am I different?

Partners that have 'gone outside' the relationship whilst with me, have been doing their thing...exploration, indulgence in stuff I am not into....it's sex.... and that's all....and it's about them, not me.

The two things that are NOT negotiable is don't lie to me...tell me when that curiosity, attraction, etc is starting to happen....NOT after.... and always protect the sexual relationship with me.


Bring home an STD and you won't ever need to stray again.

And in case you have developed a mindset I am down trodden, or have low self esteem, or unsurety as to who I am...and so tolerate these behaviours...

I know exactly who I am, and because of that confidence....I have trust that my partner will be honest and respectful....and they always have been...

If there's no reason to sneak, no reason to lie....there's no reason to distrust.

- Reflect

- Learn from the situation

- Remain single for a little while

- Enjoy my freedom from an obiviously selfish and narcissitic idiot that cheated on me