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Topic: Some Advice?
Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Wed 04/01/09 10:46 AM
just because some guy gives you his number......does it mean you have to marry him????

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Wed 04/01/09 10:47 AM
I think I will just call him and talk to him about it. I mean just talking couldn't hurt right?

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Wed 04/01/09 10:47 AM
just because some guy gives you his number......does it mean you have to marry him???? Only on Tuesdays.

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Wed 04/01/09 10:48 AM
I think I will just call him and talk to him about it. I mean just talking couldn't hurt right? Have you ever heard of SUDs? Seemingly Unrelated Decisions, which lead down the path of ruin.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Wed 04/01/09 10:48 AM
just boink him and get it over with.......

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Wed 04/01/09 03:15 PM Edited by Jess642 on Wed 04/01/09 03:15 PM
Whisper.... it's amazing how all the memories come flooding back, with the right trigger, isn't it? That kind of tight, breathless feeling comes up... and parts of the experiences you had with him, all wander past, in your mind. You said something really great in your post.... you were 18, and you aren't now. As a 28 year old, you have a broader experience in life, in knowing yourself, what your likes and dislikes are.... where you can go, and how far, in everything.... you have developed a boundary system. To be in a lifestyle that limits, ALL the other aspects of this 28 year old woman, because of the very nature of the lifestyle, is perhaps not where you need to be, whereas, at 18, you had little to 'give up'.. so it was easier to 'let go'. Just a thought... and really, he offered a number... and you are 28 now, and the 28 year old can say ....tempting, but no thanks..

FreeToB Joined Wed 07/02/08 Posts: 1332	Wed 04/01/09 03:23 PM
Not posting this in the relationship section as it is not about a relationship per se. This morning while waiting in line at Tim Horton's, I ran into an OLD boy friend, from like 10 years ago. We got talking and it ended with him giving me his phone number. He even made it a point a couple of times during the conversation that he was single. He is still as good looking as ever and still as charming. Here is the thing though. The reason why I left was because I was not sure if I was really into the type of lifestyle that we both shared a common interest with at the time. I have thought about it over the years and often wondered what it would be like to get into it again, but am not really sure if I want to. As I know he is still into it. Seeing him today brought back SO many feelings that I thought I had gotten over and forgotten about. So here I sit with a number in my hand not sure what to do with it. Do I want that life style back again? Or not. I guess there really is no advice anybody can really offer, or maybe there is. I don't know my head is going a mile a minute here. The D/s life is a tough life to LIVE 24/7. People grow closer and trust more and it gets better...or they see thier differences that they can't come to grips with and part ways. Sometimes without considering openly the alternatives. Or what could change or be modified to make it better for both. The key to any relationship IS communication and trust, and its only more important in an alternative lifestyle. I bailed on my beautiful girl of 14 years because it just got too hard to keep moving forward. And if you're not moving forward, you may as well be moving backward. But people change, mature, learn to percieve better. So I would give this guy a chance if you really liked him. Like anything, people get better at love and lifestyles the longer they do it. I'm only assuming thats the lifestyle you mean. It's the one that I know for 25 years. And lived it 24/7 up until 2005. But hell..the jigs up on me now I guess!!! lol

FreeToB Joined Wed 07/02/08 Posts: 1332	Wed 04/01/09 03:24 PM
just boink him and get it over with....... hehe I'm a startin' to like you. (spoken like "I like the way you tawlk!) lol

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Wed 04/01/09 03:25 PM
Hogtie him, have you way with him & then decide

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Wed 04/01/09 03:26 PM
just boink him and get it over with.......

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Wed 04/01/09 03:29 PM
a women herself, heeding herself, and trusting herself, in each feeling of herself, not changing to meet the approval of a man, is the only holy grail for a women, and of what a man truely is???

FreeToB Joined Wed 07/02/08 Posts: 1332	Wed 04/01/09 03:33 PM Edited by FreeToB on Wed 04/01/09 03:33 PM
just boink him and get it over with....... Good advice.

FreeToB Joined Wed 07/02/08 Posts: 1332	Wed 04/01/09 03:34 PM Edited by FreeToB on Wed 04/01/09 03:35 PM
Hogtie him, have you way with him & then decide Good advice. And make his "safe word" the un-pronouncable symbol formerly known as Rutabaga". lol I'm outta here. Night all!