my x and i went out for 8 months. Everything was great, but one thing happened and she never wants to be with me again. Through all the emotion and everything she wants to be able to drink, and get tatoos and all of that crap. At first i really didn't want her to, but she left and i realized the real importance of that stuff. I didn't care about it as long as i had her. well ne way i've pretty much been trying for 3 months to get her back but it's not going to happen. Ne ideas on how to move on?

Should "of"?

start dating her friends!

Sorry, my advice is to figure out a way to move on. IMO, you were behaving in a controlling fashion, treating her like a possession and not accepting her the way she was. That's a no-no for most of us. I'm not saying you are like that generally or all the time, as obviously I don't know you, but in this case, that's what it comes across to me as. You lived it, hopefully you learn from it and you move on.

I wish you peace and happiness in your future

thats funny. I think all of them are taken and on her side too. Even though i didn't do ne thing wrong.

haha awww bummer..i think of a better one

live, learn, laugh

then.......... move on

You just need some move on sex thats all cheerup

if shes not showing the intrest that you show in here,, then walk away,, there is not a simple way to do it. just let her go and find something to occipy your time. hit the gym, play some sports, get into video games, something to take your mind off what is troubling it. and above all else,, find you a damn good friend to talk to when nothing seems to help. someone who wont judge you, pick on you or talk shyte to you for the way your feeling. Just my opinion

I never controlled her. I never told her not to do that. I said i don't like it. The main problem is most women don't know what controlling is. I've seen girls get smacked to the floor because they don't listent o their "men". I'm a real man. I was never going to leave her for doing those things and i would of never put a hand on her. It's just most ppl are afriad to say what is on their mind because everything is politcally correct. A real man sees something wrong and says something.It's just sad that everybody is willing to run away at the first sight of an argument. Thats why no one stays together now. There are very few real men left and because most families grow up with out them a woman filled family is too sensative and if there are boys in that family they don't know how a real man acts and starts to do what he sees on tv.

Bro, are you looking for a hostage? Or a relationship?

If you are not all that into "all that crap" that defines a large part of who she is or what she is comfortable with then it would stand to reason that you are not all that into her either. Ergo, involving yourself in a "relationship" with her is nothing more than taking on an emotional hostage. Give her freedom, and you too will experience freedom.

I agree with you, to some extent. Depends on how often you said what was on your mind, how you judged the "what's wrong" etc. I don't know if this stuff gradually came into the relationship or if it was there before. But, the issue as I see it is that you couldn't accept her as is. That's a big problem with a LOT of relationships, people "loving" someone, they're "perfect" now change. Of course, it's "for their own good." We need to either accept as is or not be involved. Yes, if you felt she was/is harming herself, you should speak up, once. That's it. After that, it's up to her to listen or not, her choice. If she chose not to, the only thing left for you to do is decide whether you can live with it happily without judgment or not. But, that's on you. Your choice, your responsibility. You made a choice, you need to learn to live with it and let her live with her choices.

It is a wonderful thing for you to have learnt from your behaviours.... you will carry that learning into the next relationship, and not make the same mistakes again..

You understand what is important in the relationship, what is important to you... and where your personal boundaries are.

If you aren't comfortable with a partner who goes out drinking all the time, and you don't particularly like tattoos on women, that's ok... they are your boundaries... you have learnt that you cannot dictate to others your boundaries.

Growing can be painful.

Please keep in mind this is only my opinion, listen and then do what u will with it. I get the impression that u were tryin to change her into what u wanted. IE u don't like tatts, that's what she likes so u either accept that in her or u move on, she likes to drink, u either accept that or u move on, do u see where I am goin with this? The biggest mistake a person can make is tryin to change the other to suit them. U either accept them for the unique wonderful individuals they are or u move on. U don't like a woman with tatts, then find one who doesn't like them either, U don't like a woman that drinks, find one that doesn't, u gettin this? Would u honestly want some woman pushin her likes and dislikes onto u, erasin ur unique individuality??? I'm gonna venture a big fat H*ll no.

Give urself some "Me" time to recollect urself, then get back out there and find the one for u, the one u can accept without feelin the need to change.

Good Luck!!!

it's called comprimise. I do for you you do for me. If i matter that much to you. Is alchol really that much more important than a good relationship? I guess so.